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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsIt is with a heavy heart
I announce that my husband of 30 years has died. I check DU daily, you all are like family to me
NNadir
(33,587 posts)50 Shades Of Blue
(10,110 posts)Cracklin Charlie
(12,904 posts)He lives on in your heart.
RT Atlanta
(2,517 posts)Sending positive thoughts and vibes to you and your family.
GoCubsGo
(32,103 posts)The_jackalope
(1,660 posts)onit2day
(1,201 posts)like all things...this too shall pass. Again, sorry for your loss
wryter2000
(46,136 posts)Big hugs
davsand
(13,421 posts)I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
Laura
Ohiogal
(32,191 posts)Please accept deepest sympathies from this family member
I am so, so, sorry
guillaumeb
(42,641 posts)From whatever source.
Guill
pdxflyboy
(678 posts)I am very sorry for your loss.
FakeNoose
(32,917 posts)ecstatic
(32,786 posts)CozyMystery
(652 posts)JHan
(10,173 posts)Vinca
(50,333 posts)appalachiablue
(41,203 posts)All best and please take care.
LyndaG
(683 posts)How terrible for you and your family. You are in my prayers.
lpbk2713
(42,774 posts)I wish you strength.
onethatcares
(16,209 posts)n/t
AJT
(5,240 posts)mahina
(17,763 posts)GeoWilliam750
(2,523 posts)In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)CTyankee
(63,926 posts)What a terrible loss. My heart goes out to you...
Goodheart
(5,352 posts)BigmanPigman
(51,660 posts)Take care of yourself and be kind to you!
Squinch
(51,087 posts)barbtries
(28,822 posts)spooky3
(34,527 posts)displacedtexan
(15,696 posts)So very sorry. Just know that we are all here for you.
LeftInTX
(25,809 posts)Maraya1969
(22,512 posts)FM123
(10,054 posts)in2herbs
(2,947 posts)SCRUBDASHRUB
(7,252 posts)janterry
(4,429 posts)Ciaphas Cain
(124 posts)lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)30 years together is a lifetime. Try to take care of yourself. Condolences to you and your family.
pnwmom
(109,025 posts)colorado_ufo
(5,743 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,184 posts)My deepest condolences, my sincere deepest sorrow to hear of your tragic loss.
Marie Marie
(9,999 posts)femmedem
(8,213 posts)I am watching my mother grieve for my father after being married to him since she was barely 19. It is part of the human experience, but wrenching.
I hope he died peacefully, and that in time his memories bring you more comfort than grief.
LoisB
(7,256 posts)Glorfindel
(9,747 posts)I am very sorry for your loss.
Hekate
(91,025 posts)May peace come to you gently.
Different Drummer
(7,681 posts)DarthDem
(5,258 posts)My very best wishes and condolences to you and your family.
Zoonart
(11,913 posts)dalton99a
(81,707 posts)gademocrat7
(10,687 posts)We are with you.
babylonsister
(171,111 posts)TruckFump
(5,812 posts)My thoughts are with you.
Baltimike
(4,148 posts)mountain grammy
(26,673 posts)camartinwv
(51 posts)Demsrule86
(68,822 posts)mokawanis
(4,455 posts)I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort from the love and support coming from your DU family.
TygrBright
(20,780 posts)ailsagirl
(22,908 posts)My deepest condolences to you
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Nothing gets more real than losing close family. I lost my son 5 years ago and sometimes its as raw as when he first died, but most of the time I remember him as he was when he was alive. Ive got great, wonderful memories. You will too.
krakfiend
(202 posts)tiptonic
(765 posts)So sorry for u and ur family Lifelong. U hang in there.
Soph0571
(9,685 posts)If you need anything and it is in my gift to help you please do let me know
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,439 posts)Paz
trev
(1,480 posts)May you find strength in your good memories.
firstwife
(115 posts)Uben
(7,719 posts)
.lost my wife 7 yrs ago. I know you feel so lost right now, but everything changes.
edit: We have a bereavement group here. I found some comfort there. When your ready, come talk.
handmade34
(22,759 posts)SunSeeker
(51,803 posts)IADEMO2004
(5,580 posts)My way better half passed three years ago.
Phentex
(16,334 posts)Take care of yourself.
kanda
(175 posts)Sending my deepest condolences. May your heart be filled with the happiness you shared over your years together.
nolabear
(42,004 posts)But I'm glad we can be a part of it. May he cross easy.
spanone
(135,947 posts)malaise
(269,305 posts)Deepest sympathy - I can understand yur heavy heart
littlemissmartypants
(22,855 posts)I hope his passing was peaceful, Lifelong Protester. Deep condolences to you and your family. ♡
walkingman
(7,701 posts)mcar
(42,469 posts)Please take care of yourself.
SammyWinstonJack
(44,130 posts)lunasun
(21,646 posts)sheshe2
(84,060 posts)DonCoquixote
(13,616 posts)Just remember that there are people who will be there, even if across cyberspace
Cary
(11,746 posts)lapucelle
(18,409 posts)(If prayers are welcome, let me know. I actually go to church every week.)
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)My husband was spiritual but unchurched.
lapucelle
(18,409 posts)Again, I am so sorry.
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)GentryDixon
(2,964 posts)Hugs. 💜
No Vested Interest
(5,167 posts)dbackjon
(6,578 posts)deek
(3,414 posts)for your loss
sinkingfeeling
(51,497 posts)DUgosh
(3,059 posts)volstork
(5,403 posts)cilla4progress
(24,801 posts)so sorry! I have a long term marriage and can only imagine the depth of your sorrow.
Hugs. We are here for you.
fierywoman
(7,707 posts)mfcorey1
(11,001 posts)Gothmog
(145,938 posts)livetohike
(22,172 posts)knew and loved your husband. May the memories of all your good days bring you comfort and peace
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WinstonSmith4740
(3,060 posts)This helped me when my husband crossed over. Please take care of yourself...it's easy to forget to do the important things.
Gone From My Sight (credited to Henry Van dyke)
I am standing upon the seashore. A ship, at my side, spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says, "There, she is gone."
Gone where?
Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast, hull and spar as she was when she left my side. And, she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in me -- not in her.
And, just at the moment when someone says, "There, she is gone," there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, "Here she comes!"
And that is dying...
3catwoman3
(24,127 posts)...and eloquently stated words by whomever the author may be. I have not seen this before.
cpamomfromtexas
(1,247 posts)ms liberty
(8,628 posts)hibbing
(10,113 posts)Worried senior
(1,328 posts)japple
(9,850 posts)the world became a dark place. The angels (many of them from DU) held me aloft and I somehow made it thru. If you ever need someone to talk to, send me a PM.
politicaljunkie41910
(3,335 posts)difficult days ahead.
OldManTarHeel
(435 posts)My thoughts are with you and yours during this very difficult time.
Godspeed:
candle:
jrthin
(4,842 posts)Eliot Rosewater
(31,138 posts)Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)This will be a difficult time. We have all had loved ones pass on. I hope there's some solace there, somewhere. Relief from pain or suffering. Something. Hugs and thoughts for you and your family at this time.
JDC
(10,146 posts)bronxiteforever
(9,287 posts)CrispyQ
(36,567 posts)I can't imagine.
There is a bereavement forum on DU that you might find helpful.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
choie
(4,112 posts)My heart is with you....
bluestarone
(17,127 posts)CaptainTruth
(6,618 posts)MontanaMama
(23,368 posts)I wish you peace during these very difficult days.
arthritisR_US
(7,303 posts)yours and know that in my thoughts I am hugging you in endearment, understanding and complete compassion
area51
(11,943 posts)mia
(8,363 posts)Peace and love to you and your family.
Bettie
(16,151 posts)I can't even imagine how hard that is.
3catwoman3
(24,127 posts)I hope you have people around you that you can lean on. There is always so much support and empathy here on DU.
Tanuki
(14,931 posts)is here for you at all times.
Birdzeye
(13 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. 😢
applegrove
(118,915 posts)KCDebbie
(664 posts)You have my deepest sympathies...
LAS14
(13,792 posts)Igel
(35,390 posts)It can be hard.
Va Lefty
(6,252 posts)Historic NY
(37,461 posts)cally
(21,601 posts)Husband. Many hugs
CentralMass
(15,265 posts)DinahMoeHum
(21,835 posts)Raine
(30,541 posts)StarryNite
(9,474 posts)denvine
(802 posts)My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family.
mobeau69
(11,169 posts)Tumbulu
(6,292 posts)I know there are no words, only know that we care about you.
Greybnk48
(10,182 posts)Please accept my condolences to you and your family.
Ink Addict
(36 posts)stuffmatters
(2,574 posts)CousinIT
(9,275 posts)The emptiness you feel inside is no doubt overwhelming.
I wish you strength and as much peace as possible during this painful time.
Give yourself lots of care, patience, tenderness and time.
backtoblue
(11,348 posts)May you find comfort and peace soon. I'm very sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you
debsy
(530 posts)lisa58
(5,755 posts)I lost my husband of 25 years this past August- my heart is with yours
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My deepest sympathies.
VOX
(22,976 posts)30 years is a long, sweet time, and everything must be all the more difficult right now.
Everyone on DU wishes you nothing but peace. Hang in there. Keep us updated, please, whenever you can.
Go safely.
skylucy
(3,748 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,996 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,472 posts)Hassin Bin Sober
(26,362 posts)bluecollar2
(3,622 posts)DeafAngelboy23
(35 posts)Sorry for your loss 🙏🏻
democrank
(11,113 posts)Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)They mean a lot.
AC_Mem
(1,979 posts)Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your husband. While they become free, we who are still playing the earth game must endure the pain of loss. I wish healing of your heart.
Annette
snacker
(3,619 posts)Sending hugs and sympathy to you and yours.
MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)But he hated tRump.
Judi Lynn
(160,682 posts)The answers are ahead of you, waiting to be discovered, in time. The time and love invested already are not lost to you.
Please take good care of yourself now, as you start your healing process.
pazzyanne
(6,560 posts)So sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourself at this time, as it is so easy to overlook the things that will help you stay strong and come through this difficult time. Take comfort from the people who support you, and accept help from those family and friends who offer. Remember that letting others help you, helps them as well! Peace.
Enoki33
(1,589 posts)UniqueUserName
(179 posts)Richard D
(8,822 posts)PatrickforO
(14,604 posts)It is so difficult to lose a spouse.
Blue_playwright
(1,568 posts)As much as you need to. We are here for you.
Farmer-Rick
(10,240 posts)Two months ago I lost my wife of 35 years and my mother. It really hurts. I know the pain you are going through.
I find a good stiff drink helps. Talking about them to close family helps too.
BadgerMom
(2,772 posts)I hope you are surrounded by loved ones who help you care for yourself in the days ahead.
AwakeAtLast
(14,134 posts)May you find comfort and peace.
Liberal Veteran
(22,239 posts)I can't imagine how you are feeling, but know that you have people thinking of you right now.
budkin
(6,730 posts)Cant even imagine the pain.
Crabby Appleton
(5,231 posts)to you and your family.
Freedomofspeech
(4,230 posts)voteearlyvoteoften
(1,716 posts)xo
aikoaiko
(34,186 posts)And my condolences to you and all who knew and loved him.
c-rational
(2,602 posts)irisblue
(33,056 posts)happy feet
(881 posts)Big Hugs to You.
Amsterdammer
(130 posts)for your loss.
Sanity Claws
(21,866 posts)I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Nevilledog
(51,295 posts)Healing thoughts for you and all who will miss him.
TomSlick
(11,138 posts)ejbr
(5,858 posts)hwmnbn
(4,279 posts)warmfeet
(3,321 posts)may be the most difficult thing for any one of us to overcome.
I am so sorry for your loss.
boston bean
(36,225 posts)Stinky The Clown
(67,841 posts)Trueblue Texan
(2,451 posts)Only time makes such great loss better, though it must feel as though the sadness will never lift. Thoughts for your peace and rest.
Suprk
(90 posts)LisaM
(27,859 posts)This is starting as a year of heartbreak for a lot of people. I hope peace and relief come to many by year's end.
tenderfoot
(8,439 posts)yonder
(9,686 posts)Please know the most positive energy is on its way. I am sorry.
kimbutgar
(21,284 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Prayers to you and your dear husband.
Donkees
(31,536 posts)phylny
(8,394 posts)can soothe your pain. Please know you're among people who care here.
helpisontheway
(5,008 posts)lanlady
(7,136 posts)Know that you'll always find people on this board who will console and comfort in this time of trouble.
oasis
(49,490 posts)My your husband rest in peace.
tomg
(2,574 posts)FailureToCommunicate
(14,034 posts)how you are doing over the next few hard days and weeks.
So sorry to hear of your news LP.
-FTC
sellitman
(11,610 posts)My deepest sympathies
Demovictory9
(32,493 posts)samnsara
(17,665 posts)July
(4,752 posts)Your DU family is here for you.
CottonBear
(21,598 posts)blueinredohio
(6,797 posts)grantcart
(53,061 posts)Wishes for a bright tomorrow is all I have.
benld74
(9,911 posts)healthnut7
(249 posts)SHRED
(28,136 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,418 posts)I am so sorry for your lost.
onecaliberal
(32,998 posts)KT2000
(20,605 posts)I am so sorry. You probably feel untethered at this time so you have my sympathy.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)May you find comfort in those memories.....condolences, Lifelong Protester.
tavernier
(12,425 posts)a kennedy
(29,779 posts)can not imagine how you feel.
highplainsdem
(49,123 posts)and prayers for you and your family.
mercuryblues
(14,558 posts)may you find the strength to honor him.
EllieBC
(3,052 posts)I am very sorry for your loss.
whathehell
(29,110 posts)EffieBlack
(14,249 posts)k8conant
(3,030 posts)sprinkleeninow
(20,270 posts)You are not alone. 💞
God Grant You the Peace that Passes Understanding.
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hostalover
(447 posts)hostalover
(447 posts)Rhiannon12866
(206,853 posts)And you know that your DU family is here for you always.
badhair77
(4,227 posts)I wish you peace.
Liberty Belle
(9,540 posts)and that once you get through the next few days/weeks of all that must be done, you will find ways to stay active, get involved and make new friends to help partly fill the emptiness left behind.
Life goes on, different than before, but can still be fulfilling for you. Don't be afraid to ask for help, too, or company when you need it.
gristy
(10,667 posts)What a sad way to start the new year.
UpInArms
(51,295 posts)ooky
(8,934 posts)Texin
(2,600 posts)Pepsidog
(6,254 posts)lostnfound
(16,203 posts)May you hear his voice when you need it, be comforted by the memories, and find solace in the gratitude that lies underneath the grief.
defacto7
(13,485 posts)Tikki
(14,563 posts)Tikki
mecherosegarden
(745 posts)bobbieinok
(12,858 posts)Chellee
(2,106 posts)ProudMNDemocrat
(16,898 posts)May you find strength and comfort at this time.
Silver Gaia
(4,552 posts)May you find solace in the arms of friends and family, strength in your memories as you recollect and share them, and peace in your heart as you find the bonds of love remain forever within yourself. May you find joy again in the fullness of time. Blessings be upon you in your time of sorrow.
Blue Owl
(50,587 posts)akraven
(1,975 posts)Moebym
(989 posts)seta1950
(933 posts)I am so sorry
Bayard
(22,237 posts)Wishing you peace and comfort.
Moostache
(9,897 posts)I lack words to heal such a wound but I wish you all the support you need and can get from family and friends.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)live love laugh
(13,221 posts)vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I'm sorry for your loss
Doreen
(11,686 posts)Close to you.
DesertRat
(27,995 posts)Anon-C
(3,430 posts)susanna
(5,231 posts)Meowmee
(5,164 posts)I hope you have family, friends and furbabes close to you to comfort you in this terrible loss
Hermit-The-Prog
(33,560 posts)Granny M
(1,395 posts)Sending love to you.
SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)My own husband died suddenly from a stroke on Oct 26th.. It;s a shock to be sure.. Mar 1 would have been our 49th.. It's still an odd feeling to be all alone after 50+ years with him always backing me up.. to you from someone whose wound is still fresh.. PM me anytime..
Laffy Kat
(16,393 posts)calimary
(81,605 posts)You have all our sympathies and strong shoulders to lean on.
It does feel like family around here, doesnt it.
You do not grieve alone. Dont forget what DUer Skittles said at a time like this: someones always here.
joet67
(624 posts)duforsure
(11,885 posts)SalmonChantedEvening
(31,955 posts)Sending light, love, and my sincerest condolences on your loss.
Fla Dem
(23,887 posts)sl8
(14,016 posts)lark
(23,199 posts)30 years is a lifetime and change of this magnitude can be so devastatingly hard. There are caring people on this board and we'd love to visit with you when you want someone to talk to or to vent your sadness or frustration. Take care of yourself and reach out to those you love.
Generic Other
(28,979 posts)ZeroSomeBrains
(638 posts)DownriverDem
(6,237 posts)that I can write to make your world better. I am so sorry for your loss. The next year is going to be very hard as you go through all the holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and other special days. Your memories will help you through.
kskiska
(27,051 posts)and your family.
catbyte
(34,544 posts)I lost my beloved husband on December 17, 2014, five months and 3 days after our 30th wedding anniversary. Take as much time as you need. If you ever need someone to "talk" to, please PM me. I know something about what you're going through. It's especially difficult this time of year. Again, I'm so very sorry.
kcr
(15,329 posts)niyad
(113,954 posts)here for you.
pandr32
(11,644 posts)MaryMagdaline
(6,859 posts)Condolences for the loss of your lifetime companion and love.
redstatebluegirl
(12,265 posts)woodsprite
(11,941 posts)Sending prayers and , my friend.
yardwork
(61,793 posts)proud patriot
(100,717 posts)(hug)
sweetroxie
(776 posts)I'm very sorry. I lost mine quite a while ago. My life has never been the same since. Be gentle with yourself.
Ginger42
(59 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you supportive thoughts to get through it hour by hour and day by day.
MarvinGardens
(779 posts)ConnorMarc
(653 posts)To you and the rest of the family.
bluescribbler
(2,130 posts)My wife passed away 9 years ago. I still miss her. I wish you well.