My dad just died.
It was peaceful. He fought stage 4 colon cancer for over 5 years, but the disease just finally took over. I consider him the best dad and he was loved so much. I have so many great memories ranging from taking me to school, being sports buddies, fixing things I could not fix, great advice and talks and so much more. He was a proud Democrat and very hard worker. Thanks to all of you for your thoughts and prayers.
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My sincere condolences.
I'm glad the end was easy, and that you have so many good memories to sustain you. It sounds like he helped raise a wonderful person. I'm sure he was proud of you. 
It really hurts for a long time and then in time all the lovely memories make us remember with fondness 
We went through the same with dad-in-love. Get out, do things, go to a restaurant, get with friends. I'm serious. See your pastor/priest/rabbi - it makes a difference. Hold a memorial.
We are here for you, mvd. Always. I still miss my dad, and it's been more than 20 years. I miss dad-in-love, and it's been 10. But the good memories? They stay.
Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. Your words really hit me...my dad was my hero and even though he's been gone for years, I miss him deeply. This is a hard day, to be sure. Rest, take care of yourself and keep your father's love close around you.
Sounds like my dad.
My sincere condolences to you and your family. I am glad that you can find some comfort in your memories of him. Sending you peaceful thoughts and wishes.
sympathy to you and your family.
I am so sorry
... it's still a very hard thing when it finally happens. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you have family and friends to help get through this. Most of us on DU are old enough that we've lost one or both parents, so we can certainly sympathize with what you're going through.
Just remember that everyone's time of grief is different. There's no set time for grief to be "over" but eventually the pain will be less of a burden. Take all the time you need and feel free to reach out to any of us on DU.
Good luck and may God bless you and your family!
Really sorry for your broken heart right now.
Thanks for letting me say that to you, by saying whats up w your life. 
sounds like he was a great father; I'm so glad you are able to remember him with such affection
I lost my father almost 11yrs ago, I still miss him... 
Thoughts of comfort on their way to you! So happy that you have great memories of your Dad. May they help ease the pain!
I hope you and your family will have peace in memories of happy times with him.
He must have been a wonderful and loving father. You are so very lucky to have had such a loving relationship with him.
With time, the good memories of him will ease your sadness.
I lost my dad when I was 17. I miss him every, single day. It’s been 38 years.
his passing was peaceful, though I wish you could have had him with you for more healthy years to form beautiful memories. Sympathies, and prayers for all of you.
The world just became a smaller place
wonderful man and a terrific role model for you in so many ways. His light is still shining in the world through you. The love he shared with you and his example of a life well lived will continue to guide you. Peace and blessings to you.
Very sorry for your loss, mvd!
Those are the things that will get you through this. I went through it 6 years ago, and it is all the love and the good memories that keep me going every time I want to cry.
It sounds like you had a dad who was just like my dad. I'd say we were very lucky.
May your dad be at peace.
My first was when I planted a small square of forget me nots in his honor. (He loved his garden and he was a jokester)... when I went to water them, the hose turned swiftly in my hand, I got a squirt of water in my face, and and could hear him laughing. We both laughed because I knew he was there. And almost every time I put on a blouse, it goes on backward, and I holler at him to quit, then have to laugh.
Your dad will do things to let you know that he is still with you. ❤️
Peace.
Sorry to hear of your loss of a Dad, and our loss of a friend.
Peace to you and all who loved him.
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He sounds like an amazing father. May your happy memories give you strength and peace in this sorrowful time.
DEATH OF MY FATHER
I try to look away from the
view my mind’s eye holds.
I can not.
I can only see my father.
He is there reminding me of what I am,
and what I can be.
I reach out to hold him, to thank him.
He is not there.
And suddenly I start to cry.
I think of the things I should have done but didn’t,
Should have said but couldn’t.
And then I feel a touch which brings me back to my mind’s eye.
It is my father, he smiles and hugs me.
I am not alone, he will always be there.
-James R. Doty
My deepest sympathies for the loss of your dad.
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I am so sorry for your loss & I thank God that your dad is out of that body that no longer worked because of cancer, the disease from hell.
May the grief you, your family & the constellation of friends are going thru now be transformed into eternally sweet priceless memories grow that every time a thought, recollection or reminder happens, smiles outnumber the tears. You may not know me or many of the wonderful souls here on DU but I've been a member since 2001, in spite my post count, (forgot the password to my first username due to almost 3 years fighting stage 4B cancer myself), please know that we are there to chat with if/when you need to. 
I am coming up on the 15th anniversary of Mama's s departure & although I'm further along the journey you've just begun, there is & always will be a tiny part of my heart that will always be broken for her. Each one has a coping mechanism & I believe that that noone has the right to dictate to anyone how to grieve or what to believe. However you deal with the loss, sadness & grief is a personal choice. As for me, as a Christian,the thing that sustains me is that I look forward to some day being reunited with her & the loved ones who've gone on before me.
My wish for you, your family & friends is for peace, happiness, love, peace & healing to be rained down on all of your day & night & for your dad, who sounds like a unimaginably wonderful & loving Dad, safe & wonderful journey home.
You were both fortunate to have each other.
Having lost my mother last spring, I know what a wallop that must have been for you, even if you thought you had been prepared because of his long illness.
Sending you thoughts and prayers.
Dear mom Jan 1.
Its sooo hard i know.
My father has recently been diagnosed with this horrible disease.
For your loss of your dad he sounds like a great person
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It's such a difficult time. Just remember, you need not feel alone in your mourning. Don't forget that wonderful reminder from our own Skittles: "someone's always here."
