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CreekDog

(46,192 posts)
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:32 AM Feb 2019

Whitesplaining why Northam shouldn't resign is NOT a good look

Other white folks might have opinions about whether he should resign or not, but can't we let the targets and victims of his actions dominate this conversation about what comes next for him, ESPECIALLY if you think Northam SHOULDN'T resign or should be forgiven.

White folks dominate almost EVERY political discussion in America.

Can't we for a moment step back and let the victims of discrimination and racism, the victims of anti-black racism and discrimination, dominate and lead this discussion?

And if I know my fellow white folks, a large chunk of them, even here, will say, "no way that's racist!".

Good luck dealing with us. Some of us struggle to understand how it feels, and some don't even try.

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Whitesplaining why Northam shouldn't resign is NOT a good look (Original Post) CreekDog Feb 2019 OP
Rec. nt LexVegas Feb 2019 #1
I agree with your post. irisblue Feb 2019 #2
He should resign after the bigot in chief resigns. Doodley Feb 2019 #3
One has nothing to do with the other. Codeine Feb 2019 #7
I've got a good idea, why don't we hold Democrats to a different standard to Republicans? Doodley Feb 2019 #12
Of course I hold my allies to a higher standard Codeine Feb 2019 #13
How much do you want six more years of the most bigoted president Doodley Feb 2019 #14
Northam stepping down would actually make it more likely Trump will be beaten EffieBlack Feb 2019 #16
Six years of this nightmare? Are you kidding? I want it to end right now. Doodley Feb 2019 #45
We hold our own to higher standard because we are better than them! PTWB Feb 2019 #43
Because if one bigot stays, no one else's bigotry counts? EffieBlack Feb 2019 #8
This is a bit ironic Renew Deal Feb 2019 #4
nope it's not CreekDog Feb 2019 #17
Have any of our courageous Dem candidates said anything about Hassler Feb 2019 #5
Well, interesting conflation there. irisblue Feb 2019 #9
Look over there!! Codeine Feb 2019 #25
You're my hero. THANK you! EffieBlack Feb 2019 #6
I understand your heart, I appreciate it Demonaut Feb 2019 #11
I love the absolutes Demonaut Feb 2019 #10
yes, but not the type that is the topic today CreekDog Feb 2019 #18
... Solly Mack Feb 2019 #15
Agree. Duppers Feb 2019 #19
X1000 Maru Kitteh Feb 2019 #20
A truly great post malaise Feb 2019 #21
Gov Northam will have to resign. (Copied from another post) djacq Feb 2019 #22
I held back voicing or even forming a strong opinion. Tom Rinaldo Feb 2019 #23
I'm in the minority but I don't think he should be forced to resign Sunsky Feb 2019 #24
Everyone is entitled to their opinion. pintobean Feb 2019 #26
Afaic JackInGreen Feb 2019 #27
Northam is toast jll600 Feb 2019 #28
So you think someone's opinion on a subject should be suppressed because of the color of their skin? TCJ70 Feb 2019 #29
Clearly that is racist and he obviously needs to resign Generic Brad Feb 2019 #30
K&R radical noodle Feb 2019 #31
Agree. And.... zentrum Feb 2019 #32
Yes. Thank you! MineralMan Feb 2019 #33
I agree mercuryblues Feb 2019 #34
Whitesplaining why Northam shouldn't resign is NOT a good look rocktivity Feb 2019 #35
Halloween parties of the 70s, 80s and 90s Smackdown2019 Feb 2019 #36
"To see if they were dorks"? Dressing up like Madonna or Urkel (absent blackface) is "dorky" EffieBlack Feb 2019 #37
Wrong Smackdown2019 Feb 2019 #38
On Friday, he said he was in the photo. Yesterday, he changed his story. EffieBlack Feb 2019 #40
It's hopeless to tell people they belong to a group that allows them no opinion treestar Feb 2019 #39
It's reasonable to defend Northam Shoonra Feb 2019 #41
And they keep fucking doubling down, even in this thread. Codeine Feb 2019 #42
I rarely post anymore Tien1985 Feb 2019 #44
Do you want me to apologize for being white? Doodley Feb 2019 #46
 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
7. One has nothing to do with the other.
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:45 AM
Feb 2019

Whataboutism and “Look over there!” are the weakest of sauces.

Doodley

(9,176 posts)
12. I've got a good idea, why don't we hold Democrats to a different standard to Republicans?
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:56 AM
Feb 2019

Oh, I forgot Al Franken shows we already do that.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
13. Of course I hold my allies to a higher standard
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:59 AM
Feb 2019

than my enemies — why else would I ally myself to them? I expect racism, homophobia, sexism, and various flavors of bigotry from the Right, but not from people on my own side.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
16. Northam stepping down would actually make it more likely Trump will be beaten
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 01:08 AM
Feb 2019

Virginia's an important swing state. The governor plays a critical role in turning out the vote. Northam has NO credibility among a huge block of voters whose votes put him into office and who will be critical to keeping Virginia blue in 2020.

 

PTWB

(4,131 posts)
43. We hold our own to higher standard because we are better than them!
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 04:30 PM
Feb 2019

Not only that, but if this was a Republican governor I would be calling for his resignation. I damn sure expect better from our own.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
8. Because if one bigot stays, no one else's bigotry counts?
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:47 AM
Feb 2019

Thanks for making the OP's point. Although it would have been better if you'd taken it to heart and just said nothing.

Hassler

(3,401 posts)
5. Have any of our courageous Dem candidates said anything about
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:45 AM
Feb 2019

Pulling out of the Arms Treaty? You know, Nuclear Annihilation? Maybe if Pompeo wore black face when he announced it someone would speak up.

Duppers

(28,133 posts)
19. Agree.
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 06:24 AM
Feb 2019

I changed my mind last night. The reason I was slow in coming to the decision was that I have interacted with Dr. Northam and came away with a most favorable impression. Plus, I like his voting record and stances. But I agree, we cannot tolerate any stench of racism! Even if it was 30+ yrs ago.



Maru Kitteh

(28,346 posts)
20. X1000
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 06:54 AM
Feb 2019

At work I just caught snippets "Governor caught with med-school photo in Klan costume or blackface." I didn't know who it was but assumed it was a Republican and thought "There ya go."

I would expect a Repuke to resign, therefore I DOUBLY expect a Democrat to do the right thing, and resign.

djacq

(1,634 posts)
22. Gov Northam will have to resign. (Copied from another post)
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 09:13 AM
Feb 2019

As an African American and a Virginia Resident, I and my family "was" proud voters for Northam. The African American vote, especially with black women, brought Northam that win.

Doesn't matter if it was 35 years ago. Doesn't matter if he is of good character now. He's a good governor and I'm quite sure Northam is a good man, a good doctor, a good veteran, and NOT a racist.

But that image is there and we all see it. But you also can't dismiss the images of African Americans during Slavery, Reconstruction, and Jim Crow. Watch the 60 Minutes segment on Lynching and The National Memorial for Peace and Justice. Look at the images of unarmed young men being killed.

Should I tell my two adult black children to dismiss the images of their heritage? So, why should I or any DU member here should easily dismiss images of Northam in either of the two individuals.

I can't take back my vote but Northam can do the right thing and resign.

Tom Rinaldo

(22,919 posts)
23. I held back voicing or even forming a strong opinion.
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 09:22 AM
Feb 2019

If the black citizens of Virginia, who know Northam far better than I do, who are in a position to better weigh how much he may have changed since he was 24, and what good he may have done since then or could do now, chose to come forth in his defense, I would have listened to them. If they want him gone he should be, and silence in this matter is not support. On the face of it it seemed to me he should resign. And nothing has changed this morning far as I can tell.

 

pintobean

(18,101 posts)
26. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 09:30 AM
Feb 2019

This is a political discussion board. We're discussing a political issue.
Our discussion will have no real effect on whether Northam resigns.

*DUsplaining*

JackInGreen

(2,975 posts)
27. Afaic
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 09:39 AM
Feb 2019

Its only up to his state, and state legislature has called on him to go. No further judgement needed on my part.

 

jll600

(6 posts)
28. Northam is toast
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 10:09 AM
Feb 2019

But I still fail to understand why Sen. Byrd got the pass. He was actually IN the KKK. When I brought this up to one of his staffers about 16 years ago... she… A woman of Middle Eastern descent but who grew up in this country actually told me that it was OK because it was the only way he could function as a politician in West Virginia early in his career. I was shocked at how he laid in state and all of Washington including President Obama paid respects to this former kkk member

TCJ70

(4,387 posts)
29. So you think someone's opinion on a subject should be suppressed because of the color of their skin?
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 10:27 AM
Feb 2019

Hmmm...what does that kind of attitude remind me of? We all exist in this world together. No one's opinion on something should be invalidated because of characteristics they don't have control over. We aren't making these decisions, this is a discussion board.

Or maybe you really just meant ""Having a different opinion on" why Northan shouldn't resign is NOT a good look"?

Generic Brad

(14,276 posts)
30. Clearly that is racist and he obviously needs to resign
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 10:38 AM
Feb 2019

No whitesplaining from me, CreekDog. I stand in solidarity with everyone calling for Northam's resignation. He needs to be heave-ho'd immediately.

radical noodle

(8,017 posts)
31. K&R
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 10:59 AM
Feb 2019

I couldn't really fully form my "he should resign" opinion until I heard the arguments for that made by black leaders. Once I heard what they had to say, Northam's resignation seems the only option.

zentrum

(9,866 posts)
32. Agree. And....
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 11:06 AM
Feb 2019

.....I'm white. It's clear to me that accepting that image and behvaior in any way is very harmful for the country right up to the present moment.

White people absolutely do not get the last word on this.

I'm mad as hell that anybody could give this a pass as a youthful "mistake". It was put on a page dedicated to just him---it was meant to show the typical , signature things that would nudge alumni to say ---"Hey, remember good old Ralph?"

He wasn't that young. He can't be given a pass. Who here could have behaved like that at age 25? Twenty five in 1985 was to be fully aware what a KKK/black face costume meant. It was/is a profoundly racist and violent image.

mercuryblues

(14,557 posts)
34. I agree
Sat Feb 2, 2019, 12:50 PM
Feb 2019

I have been thinking a lot about this and what is missing. Yes, it was a long time ago, but not that long ago. I have not heard him acknowledge how his racism in his past helped feed into racism as a whole. How it helped keep racism alive and acceptable in certain segments of society.


By not coming forward on his own, he has also empowered republicans. They get the opportunity to come forward and demand his resignation. By doing so they get to say: See we aren't racists, the Democrats are! It gives trump the opportunity to tell his cult that, his racism is fake news, the real news it that Democrats dress up in KKK outfits and blackface. Then lie and say how Democrats are supporting his actions.


If Northam had come forward on his own, years ago with a huge mea culpa and condemnation of his actions, he would have taken away the republican hammer and let the voters decide if they forgave him or not. But he didn't. He didn't trust the people he asks to trust him.

rocktivity

(44,586 posts)
35. Whitesplaining why Northam shouldn't resign is NOT a good look
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 01:29 AM
Feb 2019

Last edited Sun Feb 3, 2019, 12:17 PM - Edit history (1)

ESPECIALLY since his replacement would be black.

Is the real problem fear that there aren't enough whites in VA who would be willing to re-elect him?


rocktivity

Smackdown2019

(1,192 posts)
36. Halloween parties of the 70s, 80s and 90s
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 12:09 PM
Feb 2019

Back in the day, Halloween parties were once a year we dress as characters to either woo, impress, or just be silly. As for the controversial yearbook photo, unacceptable! But, the VA Governor explanation of going as black face of Michael Jackson in my opinion understandable. After all, it was the 80s and back then people on both sides of the racial barriers felt MJ was going pass being senseless and being labeled as a freak. Hence, a good Halloween costume of that period.

Second, it was the 80s! Are we going to check everybody's yearbooks to see if they were dorks? Yearbooks are yearbooks and they have in many cases have wrong information. Once they are printed and distributed, you can NOT hit the redo button. Also, I personally do not have my college yearbooks; seriously who does? It's most likely that VA Governor did not know of the yearbook printing of misinformation and cause the issue. Rush to judge a person with hard evidence is not what we are. Do you actually see him in the photo????

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
37. "To see if they were dorks"? Dressing up like Madonna or Urkel (absent blackface) is "dorky"
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 12:15 PM
Feb 2019

Wearing blackface and dressing up like a violent white supremacist terrorist is racist.

You've got it twisted.

And it doesn't matter whether *I* see him in the photo - hard do since one person was WEARING BLACKFACE and the other was WEARING A KKK HOOD! What matters is that Northam saw HIMSELF in that photo and admitted as much before he backtracked yesterday. So I don't care if he's actually in the photo or not. It was on HIS YEARBOOK page under HIS NAME.

And wearing black shoe polish to imitate Michael Jackson - or any other black person - is NOT understandable since Michael Jackson did not have bootblack colored skin and smearing shoe polish on his face would do nothing to make Northam or anyone else look like him. When I dressed up like Samantha Stevens for Halloween one year, I did not cover my face in white paint because that would have been stupid.

You're speculations about what REALLY happened sounds desperate and apologist. You should stop.

Smackdown2019

(1,192 posts)
38. Wrong
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 12:20 PM
Feb 2019

He stated he was NOT in the picture. And I stated that yearbook have been WRONG many if times printing wrong information. Second, I stated the yearbook photo of the kkk is unacceptable.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
40. On Friday, he said he was in the photo. Yesterday, he changed his story.
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 12:30 PM
Feb 2019

He said: "Earlier today, a website published a photo of me from my 1984 medical school yearbook in a costume that is clearly racist and offensive. I am deeply sorry for the decision I made to appear as I did in this photo and for the hurt that decision caused then and now."

Yesterday, he reversed himself and claimed that it wasn't him.

So, which was it? Was he lying yesterday or was he lying on Friday?

If it really ISN'T him, why did he even think it was? If someone had posted this picture and said it was you, would you have assumed it was if you had never dressed up like that?

It certainly couldn't have been that he mistook it for a photo of him imitating Michael Jackson - unless when he imitated Michael Jackson, he did so, not only with jet black shoe polish on his face and hands, but in a sports jacket, plaid pants, and glasses and then posed for a picture next to a guy imitating a Klansman (maybe there was also a Klansman lookalike contest going on down the hall?) - none of which evoke anything remotely close to Michael Jackson.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
39. It's hopeless to tell people they belong to a group that allows them no opinion
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 12:28 PM
Feb 2019

Everyone can vote. Men can vote, so their opinions on abortion matter. They will have one whether they should or not. (IE the meme of a photo of a newborn that says until men can deliver this from their body, they get no opinion). Maybe they should listen, since they can't push one of those out of their body, but telling them to have no opinion -IMO is it human nature, they will then resist listening more than they already do.

The domination could be a problem. Men dominate too. Numerosity contributes to that too, and they can all vote. That they can vote is the issue. They have to be convinced.

Shoonra

(523 posts)
41. It's reasonable to defend Northam
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 04:22 PM
Feb 2019

Last edited Sun Feb 3, 2019, 09:42 PM - Edit history (1)

Yes, it was tasteless and foolish, and, yes, racist, for Northam to dress up, either in blackface or as a Kluxer, 35 years ago. But, wait ....

Is that the most recent racial offense you can find in him??

Is he going to be haunted, denied opportunities, hounded all his life for a single foolish act at a school frat party (and we don't even know the circumstances)?

The very black people who are being roused against this man know the importance of rehabilitation, maturity, and a life of good works in obtaining redemption from past mistakes. Doesn't that apply to Northam as well?

I suspect this fuss is really fueled by the Republicans to distract from Mitch McConnell's recently resurrected Confederate flag photo.

 

Codeine

(25,586 posts)
42. And they keep fucking doubling down, even in this thread.
Sun Feb 3, 2019, 04:27 PM
Feb 2019

If even so-called “liberal progressive” whites are this hopeless when faced with obvious racism then how the fuck are we ever going to get anywhere?

Tien1985

(920 posts)
44. I rarely post anymore
Mon Feb 4, 2019, 09:21 AM
Feb 2019

But I still lurk and try keep up to date. I have been horrified and profoundly disgusted by some of the posts I’ve seen defending Northam.

We need to do better.

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