My husband is still alive and unhurt.
I say that because he said to me "can I help you with something?" Very nice you say? Well I had just washed the kitchen and front hall floor and vacuumed the dining room .
He sat watching tv (he had to turn it up) the whole time I was working.
I told him how cool it was that he waited until I was done. He was rather indigent that I pointed it out. He went back to watching. 😬😬 retirement is so fun. LOL
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If you do the cooking, you deserve a dinner night out with the girls.......
Leave 'ole hubs the Lean Cuisine......
depending on his personality type, he may just need to be asked to help with the chores. I was raised by very old-fashioned country folks where kids were involved in chores of all sorts from an early age, so it's always been instinctive in me to be observant of what needs to be done and just pick up a broom or dishcloth and get-er-done. That certainly makes for more emotionally balanced home and I think that helped prevent my wife and I from fighting after we retired and before she passed.
Now, my son and I have to do everything but he wasn't taught that sense of responsibility when he was young and I was away. However, I've noticed he will help out when I ask (which goes against my grain, but I'm learning) and seems to be doing things more by intuition as time goes by. He had darn well better learn because when I'm gone, he'll have everything to do himself.
I think my point is that in many men, the male ego needs to be gently "asked" in order to prove their worth. We may need to be taught how to do the simplest of chores because we've never done them and may will be too proud to ask! I'm lucky because my folks taught me to do most everything around the home with the possible exception of complex sewing.
Sometimes, we also need to go hungry or have some dirty clothes for a while to help that point along.......
But that does sound heavenly! 
My life got a whole lot better once I ditched his sorry ass. I just signed up for a cruise to Alaska! Going SOLO of course! 
It's a bucket list item. I'll post my review in the DU Travel forum. I live in the Tacoma area, so no air fare...Amtrak will get me there for $28 (round trip). Can't wait! 
Retirement can be . . . daunting.
I did a lot of my work out of our home, the sort of work that requires concentration. So in addition to the 'can I help?" after the job is done scenario, I'm not accustomed to being interrupted 50 times a day when I'm working on something and/or trying to think. I can get really irritable about constant interruptions which, of course, produces hurt feelings, then apologies, and then . . . the whole cycle repeats itself. It's a scene right from Groundhog Day.
So, depending on the nature of the partners, retirement can be a wee bit challenging. 
He's still trying to figure out what he wants to do next. Right now it seems to be irritating me. LOL But that's another story.
We spent the first year + of his retirement care-taking his elderly mother. It was a God send he was home then because I don't think I could have managed alone due to my mother-in-law's size and weight and increasing weakness.
Now he's in the full swing of the lo-o-ong days. I'm hoping once we move back north (failed to sell the house last year) that he'll be inspired to take his wealth of experience and knowledge into the community, maybe teach part-time. He enjoyed teaching night courses years ago.
In the meantime? I'm trying to increase my basic patience levels. Maybe a little meditation is in order. Or a baseball bat.
And yeah, I think we'll be fine, too. Once hubby finds his groove.
Husband asked if I was serious and I told him, "Yes. You can choose to do them or we can hire a house cleaner or they can stay dirty. I just don't care."
So he started doing the floors. i pitch in once in a while. But I released myself from feeling responsible and it was liberating. I didn't realize that I was going to feel so happy. My shoulders felt lighter.
I still want a house cleaner some day. Meantime, I like the loose division of labor. If I don't feel like cleaning the floors I just don't do it. He dusts. I do laundry, most of the shopping and cooking.
Btw, on his way home from his weekly pt session today he's grocery shopping. It took time but over the years he's become a very good shopper. After pt he's always feeling tip top. So I pick my spots.
Try, try, try to not feel so responsible for all those routine jobs and see how it goes. It may not work for you but if it does ... 
It was the thought of life with him after retirement that drove me to leave.
It shows great self control and character on your part that he isn’t hurt.
I know someone who was somewhat insecure when younger. always had to have a boyfriend, could even get a little stalky with the neediness. karma. she is now stuck with a retired man and has NO time alone, can't even have a single space in their house for herself and he won't even go fishing if she pays for it. she is still working and he is really pesty about her helping him with all his "projects"...she just wants to clean the house alone. he does do floors, but in an ADD way - puts all the chairs outside and then doesn't bring them back in after he is done instead of just moving them around. he can't handle the vacuum or any noise so she isn't even "allowed" to listen to music. even though he gave her a pandora subscription as a gift.
