We did it with my Mom when she was diagnosed with ALS. All of us were on the same page.

there were difficult times, but in the end, all resolved gracefully.

Let me know if I can help with our experience on any way.

All my best! ❤️

The surgery plus anesthetic can dull thinking for a while. Fortunately I didn't have to make any decisions.

While I was in rehab last fall, I was told by a doctor that anesthesia canaffect your memory for up to six days, and that there may be some things that happen during that period that you may never remember. She said her son, who had needed surgery some months ago, was back to functioning all right, but still didn't remember things from that time.

Fortunately, I hadn't had or needed any anesthesia since, oh, maybe 1990, but the other patient in my room had. And it was pretty clear it was affecting her memory. She was still within 6 days of the surgery, and I hope she started to recover some after she went home.

It took about a week for my mom to bounce back mentally to where she’d been prior to surgery for her broken ankle. And the two surgeries she ended up needing a couple months later really did a number on her.

She wanted to stay in her house until she died so that's what we did. I moved in with my mom and took care of her and my sister contributed by paying for the caregiver when I was at work, she lives over 1000 miles away. When she finally started getting really bad the doctor arranged for home hospice to help and that was huge. She finally stopped being able to swallow and slipped into a coma, she came out of it the day before my I turned 50 and wished my happy birthday. She died 13 hours later with a smile on her lips and I felt we had done OK.

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to house your mother downstairs. Just convert a room, even the living room, into a place for her. Many people do. If you have to get a hospital bed, get an electric one. Don't try to save money with a crank. Hospital beds have been placed downstairs in all kinds of households. Nothing unusual about it. Keep your Mom as mobile as you can for as long as you can.

You will never be sorry you did what you need to do to keep your mother at peace. You are shepherding her through difficult days. Thank goodness she has you!

can take some time to leave her body. People in the hospital kept telling me that my beloved had dementia, but I knew it was hospital induced. They call it patient delirium. It is especially prevalent in ICU.

It's a real bummer when that isn't the case. I do feel for you and your family given the heavy decisions to make. Best wishes for for a tough time.

Something I didn't know until I broke my leg (years ago); when you break a bone all sorts of things are released into the bloodstream that can affect your mental and physical health.

I'm hoping one of our medical DUers can help out with better information than this and I hope your mother has a complete recovery.