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trumad

(41,692 posts)
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 08:38 AM Apr 2015

I detest the fact that Men make decisions for what a Woman can do with her body.

It turns my stomach when I see male legislatures deciding what women can do and not do with their reproductive issues.

Yeah sure---there a a few women who side with the men---but mostly it's teh Men.

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I detest the fact that Men make decisions for what a Woman can do with her body. (Original Post) trumad Apr 2015 OP
We are going backwards at warp speed in America nt newfie11 Apr 2015 #1
It is serving a purpose for the manipulators. It is up to us to understand what that Enthusiast Apr 2015 #8
don't men pretty much decide everything? DrDan Apr 2015 #2
Pretty much---unfortunately... trumad Apr 2015 #3
So what is the solution? TheCowsCameHome Apr 2015 #4
Solutions for Repealing Anti-abortion Laws PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #5
+1000 trumad Apr 2015 #7
And I would add: VOTE Novara Apr 2015 #10
Amen. We Democrats need to make this a priority. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #12
^^^ this^^^ n/t BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2015 #14
A superb list. hifiguy Apr 2015 #54
That's a tough question.... trumad Apr 2015 #6
pass the era. mopinko Apr 2015 #11
THIS TOO ^^ Novara Apr 2015 #16
Stop treating abortion as "icky". jeff47 Apr 2015 #47
Elect more female representatives. PinkPotus Apr 2015 #9
yes. more women in decision-making in all areas. BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2015 #15
Like Joni Ernst? Mary Fallin? Michelle Bachmann? n2doc Apr 2015 #22
No, but the thread is about men choosing for women. PinkPotus Apr 2015 #25
All you need to do is convince women to vote for women Major Nikon Apr 2015 #29
I thought the OPs problem was men deciding for women? PinkPotus Apr 2015 #34
Unless it were 100%, you'd still have men "deciding for women" Major Nikon Apr 2015 #38
Then the women were deciding things for men treestar Apr 2015 #50
Exactly treestar Apr 2015 #51
Welcome to DU, PinkPotus! calimary Apr 2015 #39
I agree 100%. nt Bonobo Apr 2015 #13
I too find it inconcievable that a mans opinion should carry much weight on this issue Elmer S. E. Dump Apr 2015 #17
Republican men AgingAmerican Apr 2015 #18
I detest the fact Liberalagogo Apr 2015 #19
I detest the fact that the greatest threat to women is men. nt Chalco Apr 2015 #20
AMEN Trumad...FINALLY SOMEONE onecent Apr 2015 #21
More than a few n2doc Apr 2015 #23
You are awfully close to victim blaming here salib Apr 2015 #27
And this entire thread is sexist n/t n2doc Apr 2015 #30
Ok salib Apr 2015 #33
I do as well, but it is not 'a few women' it's way more than a few.... Bluenorthwest Apr 2015 #24
Men make decisions for what a Woman can do with her body. AlbertCat Apr 2015 #26
Excellent post Trumad. salib Apr 2015 #28
I do, too. With the burning fire of a thousand solar flares. calimary Apr 2015 #31
How about deregulating all issues relating to birth control? Such as age restrictions, underahedgerow Apr 2015 #32
Lol salib Apr 2015 #35
Pretty sure poster meant removing all legal abortion restrictions. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #37
Er no. If we were to deregulate all birth control then the only person responsible for any underahedgerow Apr 2015 #41
Agree 100%. Like Canada. PeaceNikki Apr 2015 #36
Yeah, like that, thank you! underahedgerow Apr 2015 #42
LIKE THAT! BrotherIvan Apr 2015 #52
not to flippant but the answer is for more women to run and more women to beachbum bob Apr 2015 #40
not to be caustic, but who exactly are they going to vote for that's going to make one little underahedgerow Apr 2015 #44
yes Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #43
Yeah it's surreal when you think about it. ismnotwasm Apr 2015 #45
Those men are the lowest of the low FLPanhandle Apr 2015 #46
I actually know more women that than men that support reproductive restrictions. progressoid Apr 2015 #48
Kicking AuntPatsy Apr 2015 #49
And appoint a committee to stufy women's issues and there are not any women on the committee. Thinkingabout Apr 2015 #53
K&R Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Apr 2015 #55
When equality truly exists madamesilverspurs Apr 2015 #56
FUCK THE PATRIARCHY! Novara Apr 2015 #57

Enthusiast

(50,983 posts)
8. It is serving a purpose for the manipulators. It is up to us to understand what that
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 08:57 AM
Apr 2015

nefarious purpose is.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
5. Solutions for Repealing Anti-abortion Laws
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 08:53 AM
Apr 2015

Here’s some suggested solutions to get rid of harmful anti-abortion laws:
* Guarantee women’s equality in countries’ constitutions.
* Collect evidence of laws’ harms, find plaintiffs, and challenge laws in court.
* Lobby government against abortion restrictions (meet with legislators, submit briefs).
* Educate media, government, health professionals, and public about the harm and futility of abortion restrictions.
* Challenge the religious basis of anti-abortion laws, and keep church and state separate.
* Change the rhetoric: Abortion is not a “necessary evil.” Abortion is a moral and positive choice that liberates women, saves lives, and protects families.
* Empower women in society by changing public policies.
* Change patriarchal attitudes about women and motherhood through advocacy and education.
* Prioritize childcare and child-rearing as a universal concern, not a “woman’s issue.”

Some of these proposed solutions are obviously very difficult and would take many years. But one has to start somewhere.

To conclude, no country needs any laws against abortion whatsoever. We can trust women to exercise their sensible moral judgment; we can trust doctors to exercise their professional medical judgment, and that’s all we need to regulate the process.

From: http://www.democraticunderground.com/115253

Bolding added because it's the part that you see me and others really trying to focus on here on DU among our alleged allies. It's an important point and one which some alleged allies are getting incredibly hostile.

Novara

(5,860 posts)
10. And I would add: VOTE
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 09:00 AM
Apr 2015

The best hope we have is to vote these goddamn neanderthal motherfuckers out of office. Red states are notoriously bad for women. It's time we make them blue states. Your rights and bodily autonomy shouldn't depend on your zip code.

Oh, and while we're at it, get rid of the goddamn neanderthal motherfucker congress representatives who happily play along with anti-women lawmaking.

It's up to all of us, folks. We can whine about it or do something. Or whine AND do something. But just DO something!

 

trumad

(41,692 posts)
6. That's a tough question....
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 08:53 AM
Apr 2015

I can offer simple solutions---such as vote the fuckers out.

But reality say's that it will go on this way for a long time---which turns my stomach.

mopinko

(70,275 posts)
11. pass the era.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 09:01 AM
Apr 2015

it has been clear for a long time that equal rights for women would mean access to abortion. it was the anti's trump card. but no one, and i mean no one, called them on it.

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
47. Stop treating abortion as "icky".
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 01:17 PM
Apr 2015

The party's position on abortion has been "it's icky, but I guess we gotta let it happen".

How about instead we go with "why the fuck do you get to control what happens in her body?".

 

PinkPotus

(35 posts)
25. No, but the thread is about men choosing for women.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 10:44 AM
Apr 2015

Electing more female representatives would fix the stated problem. I would like to see the house of representatives mirror the demographics of our country.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
29. All you need to do is convince women to vote for women
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:32 AM
Apr 2015

Because women make up the majority voting block.

http://www.cawp.rutgers.edu/fast_facts/voters/documents/genderdiff.pdf

However, electing more female representatives wouldn't necessarily fix the stated problem. Party affiliation is a much bigger indicator of how someone votes on that issue. It's not even close.

 

PinkPotus

(35 posts)
34. I thought the OPs problem was men deciding for women?
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:45 AM
Apr 2015

If women made up ~50% of our representatives, that problem would be solved. Getting those female representatives to vote the way we think they should vote would be another problem entirely.

Major Nikon

(36,827 posts)
38. Unless it were 100%, you'd still have men "deciding for women"
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:54 AM
Apr 2015

The idea that choosing candidates based on whether or not they were born with a penis doesn't seem to have much merit. The GOP doesn't have a problem finding female candidates that will vote the wrong way on women's issues. A majority of female Republicans is not better than a majority of Democrat males.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
50. Then the women were deciding things for men
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 06:19 PM
Apr 2015

The sexes are both part of society. We can't have separate governments.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
51. Exactly
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 06:20 PM
Apr 2015

It is not they are men but that they are right wingers. And other men support women's rights.

calimary

(81,550 posts)
39. Welcome to DU, PinkPotus!
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 12:03 PM
Apr 2015

Glad you're here! I would guess Harry Reid would be there next to you saying the same thing. Actually, he did. The interview Rachel Maddow did with him recently showed that. That was one point he made. That he found more women coming into the Senate actually made things better. There was more that got done. There was more effort actually to do the actual work, rather than posture and strut and filibuster and bullshit and run out the clock for the sake of petty grievances and getting even and other infantile vengeance scenarios like the men did.

THEY have always presumed to speak for us. And that won't change until we get more of US in there speaking for us. No man can tell me what to do with my body. NONE. Because at its most basic, they can't possibly know or understand. It's just not possible. Not even for my own husband, although he is of the same mindset especially on this issue. Plus, he has a daughter (ours) and understands what SHE faces versus what confronts our son. My husband's a very liberated man. He's also one of those who wonders how the hell our marriage is somehow soured and endangered just because a couple of gays down the street can go get married too. And our marriage will be 40-years-old next year. LOVE that dude of mine! I don't think I could live with somebody who didn't feel that way. I'm the lucky one.

Actually I'm one of those who would go stealth while the above suggestions are implemented. While that's being efforted, to pull the momentum toward enlightenment, I'd be underneath, pushing - by strategic legislating, if you will.
Like sneak language into EVERY bill, the way the bad guys do. Language that would undermine the efforts to take women's physical sovereignty away from us. I'd say attach it like a hidden IED in EVERY piece of legislation introduced by the GOP. EVERY piece. Whether it has to do with reproductive or health issues or not. Time for the Trojan Horse effect.
1) Dismantle, neuter, and ultimately do away with the Hyde Amendment.
2) Legislate the penis and scrotum. Yeah? You want the government shoved up our vaginas? How'd you like it shoved up your dick?
3) Take away our contraceptive coverage? Well, then, there goes YOUR coverage for Viagra and Cialis and whatever else gives you a four-hour hard-on.
4) Insert language, EVERYWHERE AND ANYWHERE POSSIBLE, that nullifies even a whiff of this "conscience clause" crap. THAT bullshit has to be done away with, too. FLATLY, CATEGORICALLY, AND WITH TOTAL FINALITY.
A) Because we're a SECULAR government.
B) And because if your "conscience" doesn't allow you to DO YOUR JOB, then clearly you're in the WRONG job!!!

I'm one of those who believes in "taste of their own medicine. See how they like it." I'd like to see how men would feel if THEIR bodies were suddenly under siege all the time. Maybe it's time they learned about this.

I think we have to fight this on multiple fronts. Good fighting and nasty fighting. Hit 'em everywhere, on all sides, from all directions. Whittle THEIR supports away. Whittle THEIR laws away. Chew through their infrastructure til it's compromised and weakened and rendered toothless. Roe v Wade is ON THE ROPES. We have to fight harder and meaner and more relentlessly.

Face it. The bad guys won't stop in this takeover attempt of theirs. That's why WE CAN'T AFFORD TO!!!!

 

Elmer S. E. Dump

(5,751 posts)
17. I too find it inconcievable that a mans opinion should carry much weight on this issue
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 09:18 AM
Apr 2015

Let the women control their own bodies is the bottom line. To put it more bluntly, "mind your own fucking body, ya pervert".

n2doc

(47,953 posts)
23. More than a few
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 10:02 AM
Apr 2015

If women voted even 60% for candidates that support the right to choose, there would not be a problem with this right being under attack. I think people are fooling themselves if they think the problem is all about men, and it does no good to spread divisive crap.

Wendy Davis LOST the women's vote in Texas. In 2013 you had one of the worst anti-female candidates ever for Governor in Virginia, and yet he got over 40% of the women's vote. Brownback got nearly 50% of women voters in Kansas last election.

These male legislatures would not exist if women didn't vote for them. Both sexes are at fault here.

salib

(2,116 posts)
27. You are awfully close to victim blaming here
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:25 AM
Apr 2015

And your examples, like Wendy Davis in Texas, just points out that the real problem is electing these men to tell women what to do with their bodies (and lives).

Also, you really should step out of the "battle of the sexes" meme ( I.e. "Both sexes are at fault here&quot . Why jump to that when it is not at all discussed in the OP?

 

Bluenorthwest

(45,319 posts)
24. I do as well, but it is not 'a few women' it's way more than a few....
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 10:37 AM
Apr 2015

The numbers for women overall are about 50% pro choice, 41% not. Men 44% Pro Choice, 51% not.
The difference is almost all in the 18-34 age group, older groups the split is nearly even.

I personally think men should have no part in the discussion at all, but even if it was all women doing the discussion it would still have two strong sides involved.

 

AlbertCat

(17,505 posts)
26. Men make decisions for what a Woman can do with her body.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 10:45 AM
Apr 2015

I'm sure there are plenty of Women (capitalized for some reason...but...ok) who have no idea what to do for their bodies and there are plenty of Men who know vey well what is good for Women and their bodies.

I detest the fact that Doctors, male or female, whose expertise is Women's needs are not being allowed to make expert decisions to help Women with any special problems or decisions they may face.

salib

(2,116 posts)
28. Excellent post Trumad.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:30 AM
Apr 2015

For a while there I thought you finally had stated this in a way that the "it's the same for men" and victim blaming crowd did not really have anything to say.

But, alas, I was too optimistic.

calimary

(81,550 posts)
31. I do, too. With the burning fire of a thousand solar flares.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:35 AM
Apr 2015

For years I've been saying "when MEN can get pregnant, they can tell me all about it. BUT NOT UNTIL THEN!!!!" Because it's simply NOT their purview! You STAND In THESE SHOES. Then and ONLY THEN you can make all these dictates and pronouncements to me. When you've walked this walk. When what happens to your body can be literally life-threatening (as both my pregnancies turned out to be). It's the woman's job. It's the woman's body. It's the woman's choice. And no other.

This is NOT up for discussion. This is an ABSOLUTE. This is a NON-NEGOTIABLE. It's just that simple.

underahedgerow

(1,232 posts)
32. How about deregulating all issues relating to birth control? Such as age restrictions,
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:40 AM
Apr 2015

definition of fetal viability, etc? Imagine that in a modern world.... to just take the entire issue off the table for any debate and regulation, forever.

That would make an incredible amount of sense.

salib

(2,116 posts)
35. Lol
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:47 AM
Apr 2015

"Deregulating".

Is this supposed to be feminist libertarianism or something? Maybe human rights should be based upon "market forces"?

There is a great deal of very good feminist analysis that may help you to think this through. Please study.

underahedgerow

(1,232 posts)
41. Er no. If we were to deregulate all birth control then the only person responsible for any
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 01:04 PM
Apr 2015

decisions about birth control would be the 50% of the population whose business it is. I never could figure out why this was ever a man's issue.

It makes no sense that young teens have to 'get permission', or that abortion is considered a crime in some states. Just for the sake of discussion, what would happen if all matters relating to birth control were just no longer under any legislation, at all? No laws about abortion, no laws about the morning after pill, or the use of the pill, things like that. What would the impact really be?

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
36. Agree 100%. Like Canada.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 11:47 AM
Apr 2015

On January 28, 2015, Canada celebrated 27 years of reproductive freedom. Since our Supreme Court struck down Canada's abortion law in 1988, our country's experience is proof that laws against abortion are unnecessary. A full generation of Canadians has lived without a law and we are better off because of it.

Canada is the first country in the world to prove that abortion care can be ethically and effectively managed as part of standard healthcare practice, without being controlled by any civil or criminal law. Our success is a role model to the world.

After 25 years with no legal restrictions on abortion whatsoever:
- Doctors and women handle abortion care responsibly.
- Abortion rates are fairly low and have steadily declined since 1997.
- Almost all abortions occur early in pregnancy.
- Maternal deaths and complications from abortion are very low.
- Abortion care is fully funded and integrated into the healthcare system (improving accessibility and safety).
- Further legal precedents have advanced women's equality by affirming an
unrestricted right to abortion.
- Public support for abortion rights has increased.

Responsible abortion care: Since 1988, the Canadian Medical Association (CMA) has successfully managed abortion just as it does for every other medical procedure -- by applying policy and encouraging medical discretion for doctors, subject to a standard code of ethics.

Doctors abide by CMA policy and guidelines, and follow best medical practices based on validated research and clinical protocols. Criminal laws are inappropriate and harmful in medicine because they constrain care and negatively impact the health of patients.


Much more at link: http://www.rabble.ca/columnists/2013/01/benefits-decriminalizing-abortion

Joyce Arthur is the founder and Executive Director of Canada's national pro-choice group, the Abortion Rights Coalition of Canada (ARCC), which protects the legal right to abortion on request and works to improve access to quality abortion services.


See more of her work here:
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2007/06/06/343745/-Repeal-All-Abortion-Laws
http://mypage.direct.ca/w/writer/writing.html

underahedgerow

(1,232 posts)
42. Yeah, like that, thank you!
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 01:06 PM
Apr 2015

I had no idea! That's very cool.... thanks so much for the info!

Those crazy Canucks score another one!

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
52. LIKE THAT!
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 06:28 PM
Apr 2015

We could learn so much from Canadian healthcare system, which I had the pleasure of using during my short stint there.

underahedgerow

(1,232 posts)
44. not to be caustic, but who exactly are they going to vote for that's going to make one little
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 01:06 PM
Apr 2015

bit of difference?

FLPanhandle

(7,107 posts)
46. Those men are the lowest of the low
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 01:08 PM
Apr 2015

It's amazing it's against their morals to do something they can't possible do in the first place. Rather convenient when pushing their morals onto other people.

progressoid

(50,001 posts)
48. I actually know more women that than men that support reproductive restrictions.
Sun Apr 26, 2015, 04:11 PM
Apr 2015

I was shocked how many women thought the Hobby Lobby verdict was great.

Of course, I live in a state that also thought Joni Ernst was the best choice so...

Novara

(5,860 posts)
57. FUCK THE PATRIARCHY!
Mon Apr 27, 2015, 08:39 AM
Apr 2015

White conservative straight old fucks (men) are losing relevance in society and they know it, and they are desperate to hang onto it. Since they are in positions of power this is how they use that power. So VOTE THEM OUT. Whether you get a man or a woman in office isn't as important as getting someone who stands up for women's autonomy. Full stop. Demand that your candidates tell you where they stand, and then vote accordingly.

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