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Coventina

(27,224 posts)
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:07 PM Sep 2017

Reflections on a weekend in the Midwest

I went to a family (my husband's) wedding in Grand Rapids, MI this weekend.

The upper Midwest is not an area I've been in much. My only other exposure was a family (my husband's) reunion 3 years ago over the 4th of July weekend.

I thought that Phoenix was part of Jeebuz land, but I wasn't prepared for the PLETHORA of pro-life, "Father's Rights", LEARN ABOUT THE END TIMES, etc., etc., billboards, road signs, that constantly bombard you on the freeways. (Three years ago we didn't drive much).

Also, I have never seen so many white people. I mean, that town (and the surrounding small towns) is critically Caucasian. Wow! I saw a few (very few) African Americans, but absolutely NO Hispanic, Asian, or Native Americans. Here in Phoenix we have lots of all ethnic groups. It kind of helped me to understand some of my husband's family's unconscious racism. They've never been around "different" people, they're just plain ignorant about them.

It was also really stunning about how it is assumed that everyone is Christian. The wedding was actually on a public university and there were Christian monuments everywhere. No sign of any other religion at all.

It was really eye-opening for me. There is at least one large tract of this country that looks like something straight out of a 1950s wet-dream. "Everyone" is white, straight, and Christian (on the surface).

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Reflections on a weekend in the Midwest (Original Post) Coventina Sep 2017 OP
Lots of churches - Dutch Reformed is one of the main ones. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2017 #1
Interesting. Yes, the Dutch influence is very evident. Lots of Dutch names Coventina Sep 2017 #2
Hmmm, wouldn't dinner be boring if MLAA Sep 2017 #3
It's amazing. My husband's grandmother never had CHINESE food Coventina Sep 2017 #4
Glad you broadened her horizons a bit! MLAA Sep 2017 #8
It was a little stressful. We were a little nervous that she'd say something inappropriate. Coventina Sep 2017 #10
I live in Columbus, Oh and go to Cincinnati about twice a year and have to drive on Boomerproud Sep 2017 #5
We narrowly escaped having one of ours named after RR. Coventina Sep 2017 #6
Don't know what happened to my once great state maxrandb Sep 2017 #12
Try living in KY and having to take the Mitch McConnell highway. flygal Sep 2017 #13
Grand Rapids is ground zero for the DeVos family. demmiblue Sep 2017 #7
Yup. Saw several things named after the family. Coventina Sep 2017 #9
I wonder if people whose children MichMary Sep 2017 #17
I'm glad they use their ill-gotten gains for good, at times. Coventina Sep 2017 #24
Pyramid scams like Amway MichMary Sep 2017 #31
I understand your point, but I still disagree. Coventina Sep 2017 #32
Yeah, I have a distant cousin (on my white side) from an area in Iowa like that. He tells me haveahart Sep 2017 #11
As a southerner who married a small town Midwesterner GulfCoast66 Sep 2017 #14
Rightwingers and Racists can be found in every state Martin Eden Sep 2017 #15
It is rural vs metropolitan. Dawson Leery Sep 2017 #18
I have lived in the Los Angeles area PasadenaTrudy Sep 2017 #16
C'mon down to Minneapolis and St. Paul. MineralMan Sep 2017 #19
I was in Minneapolis once. Coventina Sep 2017 #26
The Midwest is a big place and deserves a better verdict than the one you give here. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2017 #20
I spent the first 23 years of my life in Missouri- It is a dump snooper2 Sep 2017 #21
That I agree with. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2017 #22
It was 72 hours, but I get your point. Coventina Sep 2017 #25
Ta-nehisi Coates: maxsolomon Sep 2017 #23
The Grand Rapids area is one of the more conservative areas in the state. LisaM Sep 2017 #27
What college was it, by the way? LisaM Sep 2017 #28
I'll PM you. n/t Coventina Sep 2017 #34
so the shock that trump did well in the midwest should be less of a shock now dembotoz Sep 2017 #29
Yep that's my general territory gollygee Sep 2017 #30
Western Michigan is very conservative. greatauntoftriplets Sep 2017 #33

The Velveteen Ocelot

(115,996 posts)
1. Lots of churches - Dutch Reformed is one of the main ones.
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:20 PM
Sep 2017

It's a bit more diverse than you might have noticed: 64.6% White (59.0% Non-Hispanic White), 20.9% African American, 0.7% Native American, 1.9% Asian, 0.1% Pacific Islander, 7.7% from other races, and 4.2% from two or more races. Hispanic or Latino residents of any race were 15.6% of the population. (Wiki)

Coventina

(27,224 posts)
2. Interesting. Yes, the Dutch influence is very evident. Lots of Dutch names
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:23 PM
Sep 2017

both family and place names.

I wonder where all the diverse people were hiding while I was there?

I am glad to know that they are there, though.

MLAA

(17,374 posts)
3. Hmmm, wouldn't dinner be boring if
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:24 PM
Sep 2017

all we had was white bread every single day? No tortillas, no naan, no injera, no whole wheat!
😬

Coventina

(27,224 posts)
4. It's amazing. My husband's grandmother never had CHINESE food
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:26 PM
Sep 2017

(hardly exotic by any standard) until she was in her 70s!!
(she's now in her 90s)

When we took her to a soul food restaurant here in Phoenix, it blew her mind!!!

(she flatly refused to go to a Japanese restaurant).

Coventina

(27,224 posts)
10. It was a little stressful. We were a little nervous that she'd say something inappropriate.
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:38 PM
Sep 2017

But, she did really well and thought the food was good, even though she said she still didn't understand it.

(Why do they serve waffles with fried chicken? What is okra and why should I eat it? Why does a restaurant serve Kool Aid?)

Boomerproud

(7,985 posts)
5. I live in Columbus, Oh and go to Cincinnati about twice a year and have to drive on
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:30 PM
Sep 2017

Ronald Reagan Highway...UGH!

Coventina

(27,224 posts)
6. We narrowly escaped having one of ours named after RR.
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 07:33 PM
Sep 2017

Our Democratic Gov. at the time Janet Napalitano quickly named it by executive order after a Native American woman who died in Desert Storm.

I had mixed feelings about that. Definitely better than naming it after RR, but I didn't like the fact that it helped legitimize an illegal invasion of a foreign country.

on edit: grammar

maxrandb

(15,398 posts)
12. Don't know what happened to my once great state
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 08:37 PM
Sep 2017

I'm originally from Columbus but I've done 30 years in the Navy, so even though Ohio will always be home, I haven't lived there for almost 30 years.

I did a tour of recruiting duty in Cincinnati during the early 90's. God! What an eye opener.

I realized that Cincy was much more Northern Kentucky than it was Southern Ohio

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
17. I wonder if people whose children
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 01:48 PM
Sep 2017

are treated at the Helen DeVos Children's Hospital feel like throwing up?

I spent some time at the Spectrum complex when my dh popped an aneurysm. Yup, huge portrait of Helen and her grandchildren prominently displayed, but they never tried to push Amway or R politics on me.

Dh was (for some reason) in the Meijer Heart Center. He was in a state-of-the-art room that could, if necessary, be transformed into a surgical suite within a very short period of time. He ended up being absolutely fine. I never wondered about the Meijer family's politics.

MichMary

(1,714 posts)
31. Pyramid scams like Amway
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:55 PM
Sep 2017

are disgusting, but my friend's 18-month old grandson has had six surgeries there, and is alive today because the hospital is able to attract TOP pediatric specialists because of DeVos money. Puts it all in a very different light, at least for me.

Probably every top hospital in this country has been partially funded by rich people's foundations, and I'm guessing that probably 90% of that $$ has its roots in some shady stuff. Look at it this way: every person or family that was scammed out of a couple of thousand dollars by Amway would probably have spent that $$ on something else--maybe a car, vacation, trinkets--but having it concentrated in the hands of the DeVos family allowed them to fund a hospital that has saved thousands of lives.


Coventina

(27,224 posts)
32. I understand your point, but I still disagree.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 05:04 PM
Sep 2017

What if we had a society where we didn't HAVE to depend on rich people's philanthropy?

What if grifting your way to a fortune was not allowed?

What if the rich paid their fair share into the common good?

Then maybe children could get the life-saving surgeries they need WITHOUT having to depend on the good nature of the 1%.

 

haveahart

(905 posts)
11. Yeah, I have a distant cousin (on my white side) from an area in Iowa like that. He tells me
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 08:11 PM
Sep 2017

there is a lot of hidden incest and gay affairs that dare not be spoken of. Although he left there over 12 years ago and feigns his "progressiveness" he is still a bigot at heart. I guess he just can't help it since he was reared in that kind of atmosphere.

GulfCoast66

(11,949 posts)
14. As a southerner who married a small town Midwesterner
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 09:24 PM
Sep 2017

Any idea that we Southerners were the most racist Americans was quickly shown the door.

I learned it is even easier to denigrate a different race when you do not know anyone of a different race.

And I know I will get flamed, but the food flat out sucks. Over cooked meat, potatoes and corn served with salt and pepper. And on fancy occasions add cream. My FIL thought onions were too spicy!!

The only reason the people in rural Indiana have not treated racial minorities as poorly as my people in rural Louisiana is because there are no racial minorities in rural Indiana. Do not know if that is true through out the Midwest because I have not been other places.

Have a nice evening.

Martin Eden

(12,887 posts)
15. Rightwingers and Racists can be found in every state
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 09:44 PM
Sep 2017

The question is whether there are enough of them to swing elections to Rethugs. Seeing some states in the upper Midwest switch from blue to red is disturbing, but the South is still overwhelmingly red.

On a personal note, I'm white and grew up on the edge of Chicago near Midway Airport. I was 10 years old when MLK was slain. It was a very sad day in my family. My elderly Aunt who lived with us was in tears. When I went to school that day it was apparent the adults in the homes of most of my peers saw it differently. There was an air of celebration on the playground.

Dawson Leery

(19,348 posts)
18. It is rural vs metropolitan.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 02:01 PM
Sep 2017

Rural areas are horrifically racist and backward.
Rural Midwest, rural South, rural Maine, Rural California are basically the same.

PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
16. I have lived in the Los Angeles area
Mon Sep 11, 2017, 09:55 PM
Sep 2017

all of my life. When I go up to OR, I am amazed at all the white people!

MineralMan

(146,351 posts)
19. C'mon down to Minneapolis and St. Paul.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 02:03 PM
Sep 2017

It doesn't look like that in our part of the Midwest. Grand Rapids is what Grand Rapids is and where Grand Rapids is.

Coventina

(27,224 posts)
26. I was in Minneapolis once.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:37 PM
Sep 2017

I was there to present a paper at the Sixteenth Century Society Conference.

Unfortunately, aside from my taxi ride to and from the airport, I only left the hotel once.

I had some good sushi at a nearby restaurant!

It was fall, and the leaves were beautiful! I remember that much!

I would like to visit again, it did look like a very nice city.

Academic conferences have a brutal schedule. Not much time to be a tourist.

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,522 posts)
20. The Midwest is a big place and deserves a better verdict than the one you give here.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 02:11 PM
Sep 2017

You spent 48 hours in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Okay.

Coventina

(27,224 posts)
25. It was 72 hours, but I get your point.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:29 PM
Sep 2017

We did drive through Chicago twice (on our way there and back).

Chicago seems nice. I hope to travel and spend time there someday.

I'm not saying Grand Rapids wasn't nice. It is lovely country, so green and with beautiful rolling hills.

I was just saying it was really weirdly WHITE and, for lack of a better term, isolated.

maxsolomon

(33,470 posts)
23. Ta-nehisi Coates:
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 02:32 PM
Sep 2017

"The racial and ethnic isolation of whites at the zip code level is one of the strongest predictors of Trump support".

Xenophobia.

LisaM

(27,860 posts)
27. The Grand Rapids area is one of the more conservative areas in the state.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:42 PM
Sep 2017

It's just always been that way. There's some absolutely lovely scenery if you just go a little south and west. Try a town like South Haven, which is far more liberal than GR is.

There is diversity in Grand Rapids, but I think it's a pretty compartmentalized town.

LisaM

(27,860 posts)
28. What college was it, by the way?
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:45 PM
Sep 2017

There are actually a bunch of religious colleges over that way.

dembotoz

(16,866 posts)
29. so the shock that trump did well in the midwest should be less of a shock now
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:48 PM
Sep 2017

you have a better idea about what us locals are up against

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
30. Yep that's my general territory
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 04:53 PM
Sep 2017

And most white people here grew up in towns and school systems that are almost 100% white. This area is incredibly segregated. It's amazing. And you're right about everything else too.

There are a few liberal enclaves here and there, and they are more heavily populated, but most of Michigan area-wise is exactly as you described.

greatauntoftriplets

(175,774 posts)
33. Western Michigan is very conservative.
Tue Sep 12, 2017, 05:04 PM
Sep 2017

The area is home to a lot of Promise Keepers. Amway is headquartered in Grand Rapids, though the DeVos family is from Holland, MI, about 40 miles to the SW, As mentioned elsewhere in this thread, the Dutch Reformed influence is very strong in the area. The county where Holland is located is dry on Sundays, a fact I discovered the hard way by trying to order Guinness in an Irish pub-restaurant.

This is the DeVos' new house in Holland.



I know that Rahm Emanuel is generally hated around here, but last week he declared Chicago a "Trump-free zone".

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