I'm not a violent person in any way, although it might have appeared to that guy that I might be. I used public humiliation, instead. It works better than violence in such situations, i think.

But, then, so would a broken nose... to each his own I guess.

That didn't seem like a good thing to me at the time.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/food/rape-in-the-storage-room-groping-at-the-bar-why-is-the-restaurant-industry-so-terrible-for-women/2017/11/17/54a1d0f2-c993-11e7-b0cf-7689a9f2d84e_story.html
Rape in the storage room. Groping at the bar. Why is the restaurant industry so terrible for women?
By Maura Judkis and Emily Heil | November 17

If you’re a woman, what makes a restaurant dangerous isn’t the sharp knives or the hot griddle: It’s an isolated area of the kitchen, like the dry storage pantry.

That’s where Miranda Rosenfelt, 31, then a cook at Jackie’s restaurant in Silver Spring, was headed one day seven years ago to help with inventory, at the request of one of her direct supervisors, who she says had been harassing her for months. When she walked into the narrow basement room, far from the bustle of the kitchen, she turned around to find him “standing there with his pants on the floor, and his penis in his hands,” blocking her exit from the basement, she said.

“I felt cornered, and trapped, and scared, and what ended up happening was that he got me to perform oral sex, and it was horrible. And the whole time he was saying things like, ‘Oh, I’ve always wanted to do this.’ ” Her instinct was “not to do anything, and wait for it to be over. Because that’s what will make me the safest.”

Or maybe the dangerous place is the walk-in cooler. That’s where chef Maya ­Rotman-Zaid, 36, says she was cornered once about 12 years ago, by a co-worker who tried to grope her. But after years of working in kitchens with handsy, misbehaving men, she had remembered an anecdote from Anthony Bourdain’s “Kitchen Confidential,” in which the famous chef struck back after being grabbed repeatedly by a colleague.

A lot depends on the management of the place, I'm sure.

got grabbed in the elevator by a dishwasher.
i had been nice to him, as a dishwasher can be a big help to a busy cook. but he took it the wrong way, as men do.

fortunately, the boss sent him packing within minutes of telling him what happened. i was surprised, esp cuz it was the beginning of the shift, and being short a dishwasher makes it hard.

of course, the sous chef who hit on every woman under 50 in the kitchen got away w it. retaliated when he got shut down, too. retaliated in a way that hurt the work flow of the kitchen. but yeah.

It's a tough enough job without that junk. I'm sure waitresses, etc., smile through that stuff to keep their job, but I empathize.

sexual references seems to be part of most cocktail waitresses experience. As always, it's a small minority of men who do such things, but alcohol seems to disinhibit some people. A well-run place has zero tolerance for that kind of behavior, though.

At the place my wife worked, the waitresses didn't wear revealing clothing, and the expectation was that the place catered to a well-behaved clientele. The uniform for waitresses there was calf-length Gunne Sax prairie dresses. It was a bar for an expensive restaurant in a tourist community, not a dive bar.

Some men, I guess, just can't restrain themselves. The one in question learned a lesson, I hope.

Good on you and your wife.

serving drinks, one of the poker players put his hand up her skirt and groped her butt. she didn't say anything.

however, when she was serving the next round, she accidentally spilled some very hot coffee in his lap. oooops... he did not return.