I’m so very sorry. No words.

Condolences seem so damned inadequate, I'm sorry.

Please know many of us will be thinking of you and will be here if you need us.

The shock you are feeling will last awhile, I suspect. Just heal at your own rate.

The people on this site helped me immensely when I lost my daughter almost five years ago. Please lean on me or anyone else here when you need some love or support. You and your wife will be in my thoughts all day.

As I age, I'm at the point where these concerns bubble to the surface regularly. I have no idea how I or my wife will deal with them, though I hope it's with confidence that we've had lives well lived and whatever time remains for the surviving partner will be okay (or at least okay enough).

I hope you have people close at hand to help you through this. Love Yankeepants

I can't imagine... You have my deepest condolences.

I went through a similar scenario with my mom, made so much worse because the doctors never told us she was terminal so it was a total shock to us. I pray you have more peace with this than we did and that you don't have family members who disagree.

Will light a candle for her tonight. Please take care of yourself in this very difficult time.

I wish I had words to soothe your soul on such a terrible day.

So sorry for what you're going through.

we had a relationship that most people can only dream of. in 20 years we never had an argument. she stayed by my side no matter how tough things got. we were homeless and living in a tent for almost two years, she could have easily have found a better situation for herself.

that would have been without YOU. Obviously she loved you very much. Take some solace in the fact that her 20 years with you were her happiest -- because of YOU. The love of my life (47 years) died of a massive stroke in his sleep just over a year ago. I kept telling myself "This is your new normal, get used to it". I was afraid to give in to grief, but I should have. Take your time, accept the condolences and everything else that your friends and family want to give you. Cherish your memories of love. Place a photo of her in every room and beside your bed. And please know that we all care about you.

...for times such as these. I hope you have people to lean on.

It is very clear how much you love her.

two years ago my husband of 47 years had a massive stroke while he was gassing up his car...I was on my way to meet him for breakfast when I got a call from his phone informing me that he was in the emergency head trauma unit of a hospital across town... by the time I got to the hospital there were tubes everywhere, his pupils were fixed and the neurologist asked me if he had a DNR..so at 6 in the morning I was a wife and 6 at night I was a widow...

You will mourn, and you will grieve...go with it for as long as it takes...I want to say it will get better but it won't ..but it will get different...my heart breaks for you...take care

I can't even imagine your pain right now. You'll be in my thoughts

Wishing you peace and strength

That is a gift you have given her. Maybe you can find some comfort in that.

I am so sorry.

Grief is a deep and painful reminder of just how lucky or blessed we have been, how loved.

my heart goes out to you. This must feel like a very lonely time - but as one human to another, know that you aren't alone. We can't take away your pain or grief, but we are here with you.

I know there are no words that can help at this time. I've been in your place twice, father and brother.

But know that peace and comfort will come to you.

If there is anything we can do, please let us know.

Peaceful passage for your wife. May she rest in light.

I will keep you and your wife in my thoughts. Wishing you peace.

It will slowly wear off, but let it buffer you right now. May your good memories come quickly to the forefront and ward off the sadness.

Take care of yourself.

that is one of the worst things to happen

How horrible for you both, no wonder you are numb.

I have no words to make it better.

I’m am so sorry for your sorrow. I understand as my partner has had three strokes and does not get around very well. We ha e been together almost thirty years. I know the day is coming but am not prepared at all. I feel for you for sure.

Take comfort that she will go peacefully and endure no more pain. Surrounded by a loving family.

this must be so difficult. Peace to you.

At some level, she knows that you are there as she leaves this world. You have been wonderful soulmates for each other. I know that your heart is breaking. Peace be with both of you.

It’ll be hard to live through the things you always did together but I hope you feel her love through all of it.

DU is here for you.

I’m so sorry.

My mother was in the same condition 6 years ago. I was with her when she drew her last gasps. She died knowing she was loved because she was ready.

May you find comfort knowing your wife will be happy once again.

Her soul will be released into yours...and that is her last gift to you...her spirit lives in you forever...

Hoping you can be surrounded by loving family and friends during this very hard time...you also have a DU family to lean on...

i hope you have loved ones near you to help you through this time...and may she go in peace full of love.

you have my condolences.

Especially since it happened fast and unexpectedly. That makes it so much worse.

Fourteen years ago today. My sweetie expired as I held her.
It's rough, and for a while. She turns new galaxies now on some big lathe.
Your wife is always a part of you. Take good care of yourself.

Your love surely must be all around her through this ordeal.

The loss of a spouse is painful.

She'd want you to do something kind, I'll bet

Think about how you can help her pay it forward--

It will take time, but some day when you can, put up a wind chime in an unexpected place or take a bag of special cat food to an animal shelter and say, "My wife sent this."

Don't expect a lot of yourself at first, but as the waves begin to calm, think about what she loved and how you could share that. A special book to a school library... you get what I'm saying.


Just go slow. Be sad. And then, cautiously move on.

I am so sorry to hear this. May she rest in peace. May you find peace and joy in your memories of her.

So very sorry for your loss.

Remember...there are worse things. She could be well enough to keep alive, but totally dependent and unhappy or in pain for years to come. Not that that makes it easier for you. What a huge loss that was unexpected.

My deepest sympathy goes out to you during this hard, hard time. You are surrounded by the loving thoughts and prayers of this community.

It was clear from your other post how much you love her. I can imagine your shock and grief, having lost dearly loved ones myself.

May you find peace.

I’m so Sorry 😐

Thoughts and prayers to you.
May you find peace and solace among your friends and family.

I could not bare to walk you path.

wish you the best. if you ever need anything, you know your du family is here.

Hang in there. In time the days will get better.

Hope you both have peace.

Your not alone.
I lost my mom Jan 1. 19
😪

say is take special care of yourself, things will get better. Take care.

My wife and I send our condolences

Very difficult to lose a loved one.

you were so lucky to have each other.
be kind to yourself, it's gonna be a bumpy ride for a while.

But we're here for you...

I have no words.......

I can empathize having been through this experience twice. It is sad and numbing, no matter the circumstance. Take care of yourself, time will heal.

I lay the blame on the republicans and the games they played with the ACA. We live in one of the states that didn't do the medicaid expansion and we made far too little to qualify for a subsidy.

for what you are going through. I can't even imagine. (((HUGS)))

Please know that we're all here for you, sending support and strength for as long as you need us.

Please be sure to take care of yourself, and to let your loved ones know what you need.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I haven't lost a spouse, but I've had various other losses, and no matter how expected it is, when the person actually passes it's a shock.

From what you've posted you two had a good, if perhaps difficult life together, and I hope that moving on the good memories will sustain you.

My condolences to you and yours.

I just can’t tell you how sorry I am. I hope you have good support around you. Lots of love to you from all of us here. I’m so, so sorry.

My heart is with you both.

So sorry, dingo friend

I was so hoping she would make it.
I wish there was something I could say to make it hurt less.

I’ve learned that despite the awful pain, the Love lives on strong in your heart and will bring its own comfort to you, more over time.

your family.

You have my deepest sympathies!