My father disinherited me and my siblings almost 10 years ago.
Years ago, my parents partitioned 50/50 the property and house where I grew up.
Mom died and left her half to me.
Dad died and left his half to four charities. No $$ to me. Gave me a life estate to his half, meaning if I died or sold the property, the four charities would get half of the proceeds of the sale. For ten years, I alone carried the burden of paying the property taxes, paying for repair and maintenance, and paying to restore the house from its decrepit state.
OK, so I sold the house for a good price last June. Worked with the four charities during the sale. It is what is/was.
However, feeling unsettled about being disinherited, I decided to volley the ball back over the net.
I asked the charities to use every cent of my father's donation solely for their projects, e.g., scholarships, research, new programs, etc. and not to dedicate even a plaque with my father's name to memorialize his largess.
Yes, they were taken aback, as a lot of donations have a qualification of remembering a donor. And they were gratified. And so was I.
Am I petty? Perhaps. OTOH, the charities had their money. Obviously, I couldn't address my father for his testamentary choice. I feel/felt that I could move on.
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You fixed up the place, kept in from being sold for back taxes, probably made the charities more than they would’ve if you didn’t do anything. So personally you did awesomely and should have your considerations justified.
Went through rough patches with my siblings after our parents passed. It’s all good now.
A user with the name Baggins says you are petty. Hahahaha! 
You are not. You father may have been…
Not petty at all. 
..but we three sisters were equal as power of attny (NEVER do that ) and one of my younger sisters tried (tried) to wrench my p o a away from me. When it came time to sell dads house and deal with the estate etc i charged the estate 32$ an hour for me doing all this stuff. MOST families never take advantage of this perk but i sure as hell did. I claimed an additional 10G to the estate that I immediately gave to my married dtr and her family for their overwhelming bills.
Ooooo were my sisters maaad esp after they got their share and the invoice my lawyer provided them mistakenly read that i received an additional 100,000$ for my part as executor.
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I'll never go into mine......minefield. 
And I applaud you for it.
Getting older is hard. Taking care of business as we age is hard.
You made the right decision in my opinion! 
