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I'm 64, and have never got married.
I don't mind those who did get married, but I just got a chewing out from an elderly aunt for never getting married.
I told her to mind her own fucking business, (in those words,) since she's on her THIRD marriage.
(All three divorces.)
I had 3 sisters go through nasty divorces.
LakeArenal
(28,820 posts)I have been told that not procreating was a sin against god.
My b**** aunt brought that up also.
Walleye
(31,028 posts)griffi94
(3,733 posts)I have been for 22 years. It is my third marriage.
Good for you for doing what worked best for you.
Life doesn't have a "one-size-fits-all" template.
Have a great week.
flying_wahini
(6,606 posts)Life should never be lived Dot to Dot; mapped out like a big plan.
I know a LOT of people who had no business getting married and made other people unhappy because
they couldnt trust themselves to get out of a bad relationship.
Your life isnt over, either. You might meet the love of your life at 75.
Yea, tell her to kiss your rosy ass.
snowybirdie
(5,229 posts)being true to yourself. Many aren't
GreenWave
(6,759 posts)Also do not despair. Sometimes your "legal" partner will change the rules of the game (if you even have any) to decidedly in their favor or you will marry a contrarian who when they agree with you, the first word out of their mouths is "No!". Or someone who will bring up crap you did way before you ever met them.
A$ my attorney once $aid freedom co$ts$ money.
catrose
(5,068 posts)Ocelot II
(115,732 posts)I was married for awhile. We weren't planning on reproducing, which made some people whose business that was none of unhappy. After a time we split up, (a divorce without children is a whole lot less messy than one with them) and we've both been happier ever since. And none of it was ever anybody's goddamn business. Live your life and tell the old biddy to fuck right off.
Diamond_Dog
(32,005 posts)I cant understand where people get off chastising someone else for not getting married or not having children. I dont care if they are family or not. Its SO none of their business! Live the life thats right for you.
DFW
(54,405 posts)My younger daughter isnt married. Shes almost 40, happy with her man and their two children, but just doesnt want to get married. I wouldnt DARE anyone to tell her theres anything evil about that. She is one of Europes top attorneys. Shell rip your argument to shreds before you can say, but, but
no_hypocrisy
(46,121 posts)BTW, 66 and never married. Excuse my swagger.
Basic LA
(2,047 posts)Beware of contracts that are easier to get into than out of. Fifty percent--maybe more now-- of marriages end in divorce court. A coin toss. It's brutal (twice for me).
Love is grand, marriage not so much.
YMMV
Alpeduez21
(1,751 posts)You deserve better treatment from people. For what its worth I think youre fantastic just the way you are. You do you!