I've been married 44 years. I can't imagine.

Tell us about your married life with him. How did you meet? What did you enjoy doing together?

He was the best, did all our shopping, and cooking. We loved camping, riding our Harley, the Green Bay Packers. He was a big deer hunter. Never had a bad word to say about anyone we knew. He was very handy, built our deck. I just miss being able to just talk to him. I give him back and head rubs, he likes just holding hands now. It’s just so hard, I miss him.

Sounds like a wonderful life partner! 💖

A photo of you two may make him smile. We will be with you during that visit. DU loves you both.

my sister has Alzheimer's and she's losing her words and the look on her face is often vacant now. But she always responds to love.

Years ago, a former boss of mine had something devastating happen with his brain. His wife told me how she went to see him in the hospital and asked him, "Do you know who I am?" He said, "No, but I know you love me!"

I'm sorry you and your dear husband are going through this cruel circumstance.

However if he can listen to music, a CD of the songs of his youth or your early days might be nice for him and feel good for you to have a gift for him. Finding him the right birthday gifts all these years is a tradition that’s hard to break 💗

My dear husband’s short term memory is gone and he finds listening to music enjoyable.

or at least happy feelings? My late Dad loved Big Band music so that when he was hospitalized (not dementia but severe illness) for months prior to his death and in and out of consciousness, my sister and I brought tapes... I honestly think he "heard" and responded to much of it.

And another thing which has been known to trigger mempries is scent. A favorite perfume? A favorite food, maybe? A scented flower connected with a happy memory?

My late MIL so enjoyed hearing tunes from long ago. So did my late FIL.

shared with someone you love

A passerby remarked on how careful he was being with the woman, how concerned and gentle he was being.

The man replied, "This is my wife. I've been married to her for 50 years She no longer knows who I am, but I know who she is and that is why I care."

The gift you give is loving him. That should be enough for anyone to give and to receive.

Congratulations on having had a life with him in which love abides, more than 40 years.