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Related: About this forumSomeone who baits with cognitive distortions to decide you are not too bright
Jumps to conclusions, asks questions that can't be understood let alone answered.
What do you do with people like this?
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Someone who baits with cognitive distortions to decide you are not too bright (Original Post)
bucolic_frolic
Sep 2022
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grumpyduck
(6,296 posts)1. I have.
Take it one little bit at a time. Turn it around. Ask them to clarify the questions.
If you don't take it personally, it can actually be fun to watch them twist themselves into a pretzel.
Ocelot II
(116,015 posts)2. Tell them to fuck right off or ignore them.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)5. +1,000!
That's what I do. Usually both, in the order you stated.
targetpractice
(4,919 posts)3. Excise them from your life... They don't get better.
Help yourself, not help them.
BlackSkimmer
(51,308 posts)4. Ignore.
Thats the best thing always to do with toxic people.
And never let them gaslight you!
Midnight Writer
(21,874 posts)6. It's tough to cut negative people from your life. Sometimes impossible.
But if you can, do it.
If you can't, try not to take them seriously.
THEY have the problem.
Don't let them make it your problem.
hunter
(38,353 posts)7. I always act clueless because I am.
bucolic_frolic
(43,537 posts)8. Trauma bonding
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-steps-to-recovering-from-toxic-trauma-bond-0110175
"Trauma bonds occur in extreme situations such as abusive relationships, hostage situations, and incestuous relationships, but also in any ongoing attached relationship in which there is a great deal of pain interspersed with times of calm (or maybe just less pain). "
"Trauma bonds occur in extreme situations such as abusive relationships, hostage situations, and incestuous relationships, but also in any ongoing attached relationship in which there is a great deal of pain interspersed with times of calm (or maybe just less pain). "