I need to go on a rant

So the other night I made an idle joke about my cousin having main character energy and we are all side characters in her quest. Harmless right? Just a funny little haha to her sister since we were talking about her sister taking her son and his friends skiing and we weren't invited. We both laughed saying yeah she does have it and I said I just wish she didn't and she wouldn't always want to spend money on everything we do event wise and whatnot.

Well today I asked my cousin because her best friend died and I asked her if there was gonna be a service. She said yeah and they are planning tomorrow at a funeral home for it. So I asked her if she was planning it.

Then it happened. She said I was asked to and that it isn't because of her main character energy. I knew her sister would tell her that but I didn't think it was attempting to be malicious whatsoever. Mind you my family has a tendency to relentlessly roast each other pretty hard, except me since I don't like hurting others on purpose.

But anyway I said I was just joking about it. But then proceeds to tell me I said it to multiple people (which isn't true) and that I said it during our vacation last year to the mountains (which was complete horseshit) and I said I did no such thing at all and where that came from. But she proceeded to go on about how she isn't doing events anymore due to that and I'm like. WTF?

I said look I think you tend to do stuff you really don't like doing but you feel like you gotta. Which you don't. You don't have to spend money on everything when we can also help out and buy stuff for events. But you should never feel obligated to always go over and beyond for anyone.

Needless to say. I normally try to always do stuff for her and my family and never do anything to hurt anyone. But I say a one idle joke remark and its turned into a big ordeal due to her sister, my cousin who lies to cause drama.

I might be an asshole to some, but not like I was going out of my way to be malicious about it. Her sister has stated she has main character energy constantly and has said to her face before in front of everyone.

So yeah had a good day turn into shit over that.