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debm55

(25,783 posts)
Fri Jun 30, 2023, 10:21 PM Jun 2023

Has anyone one had a bad experience with your doctor. My original Psychiatrist retired about four

months ago. The Mental Health office changed ownership, I was given a psych nurse practitioner to fill my med. Last month I saw her by video conference for 15 minutes and her phone went dead twice. Today I had an appointment and she texted me --no call on the wrong phone. I don't think she knows what the hell she's doing. I would see my psychiatrist for 35 minutes. I guess this new place is cutting corners. Anyway, I am terribly depressed. Found out two weeks ago my sister has cancer in uterus, colon and pancreas, Mother, dearest, answers all calls going in the home. I suggested that my sister see a counselor. Mother got pissed. When my sister found out about the multiple cancers, she told my sister--didn't you realize you looked pregnant and had a fat ass. Since my sister is still working at a nursing home, I suggested that she wear a mask for her own protection. I feel absolute hatred toward my mother. Sister lives at home. for 61 years. When I said about the counselor, she said she can talk to my mother. Which leads me back to my doctor. I really needed someone to talk to. not just my husband. I have now come to terms with my sister being so much under the psychotic spell of my mother that she will be the little girl that lets my mother call the shots-and there is absolutely I can do about these uneducated people. I had posted early on the here about the physical, mental and sexual abuse of my parents. My mother is not trained to talk to my sister. My mother is mentally ill and dare I say evil. My heart breaks for my sister.

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Has anyone one had a bad experience with your doctor. My original Psychiatrist retired about four (Original Post) debm55 Jun 2023 OP
Hang in there MN2theMax Jun 2023 #1
I'm so sorry you are going through this, deb. brer cat Jun 2023 #2
... emulatorloo Jun 2023 #3
Wow, that is a lot to handle. Dark n Stormy Knight Jul 2023 #4
With a medical doctor, not really. OldBaldy1701E Jul 2023 #5
Thank you old Baldy. What you wrote is true debm55 Jul 2023 #6
So many really need help and can't get it. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2023 #7
Yes, I also owe DU a large 'thank you'. OldBaldy1701E Jul 2023 #8

brer cat

(24,663 posts)
2. I'm so sorry you are going through this, deb.
Fri Jun 30, 2023, 11:01 PM
Jun 2023

Can you call the office and ask for a session with a doctor? It sounds like you need help very soon.

Dark n Stormy Knight

(9,776 posts)
4. Wow, that is a lot to handle.
Sat Jul 1, 2023, 03:54 AM
Jul 2023

I am in a similar at situation, actually. My psychiatrist of many years retired 2 years ago & I still haven't found a new one. And my sister has stage 4 uterine cancer. Fortunately, she has far more support than your sis.

I have no words of wisdom for you, but wish you well with all of the issues.

OldBaldy1701E

(5,221 posts)
5. With a medical doctor, not really.
Mon Jul 3, 2023, 08:28 AM
Jul 2023

Now, when it comes to mental health, the stories I could tell might start a Congressional investigation. I have never had success with a 'mental health professional' and I doubt I ever will. It is such a niche profession and the least expensive of them is way more than 90% of the population can afford. So, it is overrun with greedy types who want to be billionaires. It is disgusting. (One example: I went to the county to seek help and they set me up with a dude who was supposed to see me for fifteen minutes, once a week. I had three sessions with the guy. The first one, we got into an argument about whether or not SSIDs were addictive. {Shocker, right after we had this argument, it came out that they most definitely are. I was the one saying that anything that has withdrawal symptoms is, by definition, addictive. He swore that they were not.} The second and third session, he spend the entire time trying to convince me that I should run out and get a job so that I could go pay to see him at his private practice. Basically, he was trying to get me to pay him for what he was supposed to be doing for free where we were. I was less than pleasant when I told him that I was done with him and the entire department. This was just one of the times I tried to get help.) I honestly don't recommend trying to get mental help in this country as it is mostly a scam and a money-grabbing ruse. I am sure others have had different experiences with this but mine are proof enough to me that our medical profession in general and mental health in particular are just money making schemes and not actual medical help anymore. I wish I had something more helpful to say about the family thing, but mine is just as bad. So, I guess I am no help there. Who am I kidding? I am no help at all. I just wanted to say that yes, I have had horrible dealings with the medical profession and I don't see that ending any time soon. Which is so sad, but not surprising.

SleeplessinSoCal

(9,192 posts)
7. So many really need help and can't get it.
Wed Jul 19, 2023, 05:37 AM
Jul 2023

This is a fact. It's a disgrace. But Americans prioritize according to amount of money they can Grab. I'm sure mental health is harmed by the quest. Meanwhile essential resources are being trampled on without giving it a second thought.

I intended to post here for myself being a caregiver to both my hubby with Alzheimer’s and my sister who moved in with us in order to help out, but has had a breakdown culminating in her asking me to help her kill herself. This followed a month of deep tissue massage therapy for nerve pain. And then came depression as massage seemed to allow decades of holding feelings in coming out. So she talked to psycho therapist, but wouldn't really share her fears and feelings.

Eventually that morning came whe she pleaded with me to commit suicide. That ended with me taking her to the ER. From there she went to a mental health facility for a week.

After all this, she is worse than ever. Paranoia has appeared. As well as sabotaging herself. And on to top it off her Healthcare HMO cannot get her to a therapist.

I'm at a loss. Both she and my hubby are struggling with different serious mental health struggles. I'm grateful to DU for being here. It helps to share this with others.

Thank you.



OldBaldy1701E

(5,221 posts)
8. Yes, I also owe DU a large 'thank you'.
Wed Jul 19, 2023, 08:26 AM
Jul 2023

I know some people on here are less than impressed with me, but here has always been understanding.

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