Mental Health Support

XanaDUer2

(10,683 posts) Sat Mar 2, 2024, 07:00 PM Mar 2

SO can't go a day wo a health complaint

My partner can't go one day without talking about a pain , ache. I have jaw problems, now he does. His mouth was open too long for tooth removal. Or, its his constant back problems. Spasms. Insomnia. I've been hearing this for 25 yrs.
I asked if we can go one day without him talking about his health. He can't. He does have problems.

I have health anxity and this is severly affecting my mental health. I asked him can we go one day. He said not if his tooth hurts. I try to tune it out. If he dies, he dies. He smokes and has barrett esophagus and drinks booze.

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SO can't go a day wo a health complaint (Original Post) XanaDUer2 Mar 2 OP

Sympathy goes your way. It IS hard work. Aussie105 Mar 2 #1

Its tiresome XanaDUer2 Mar 2 #2

25 years? MotownPgh Mar 2 #3

I told him he'll be very sick XanaDUer2 Mar 2 #4

Tell him Timewas Mar 2 #5

Aussie105

(5,401 posts)

1. Sympathy goes your way. It IS hard work.

Reply to XanaDUer2 (Original post)

Sat Mar 2, 2024, 07:07 PM

Mar 2

My wife of 36 years now aged 80 has sunk away into the world of self-pity with aches and pain by the score.
Plus fast approaching senility/dementia.
Treats me like servant/slave, not a spouse. Needs constant attention.

But yes, 'If he dies, he dies' . . . you get to that stage.

Bear with it, try to remember the good times.
Try to find time and space to keep yourself sane and maintain a balanced view. Not easy.

XanaDUer2

(10,683 posts)

2. Its tiresome

Reply to Aussie105 (Reply #1)

Sat Mar 2, 2024, 07:13 PM

Mar 2

He pays rent and bills. Id be in trouble if he died. But I'm still sick of it. You have my sympathies. I sometimes think he does it on purpose. He also abuses prescriptions