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Siwsan

(26,333 posts)
Fri Jan 18, 2019, 02:11 PM Jan 2019

My mother taught me to never try baking if I'm not in a positive mind set

She was an amazing baker. Best cakes, pies, cookies, sweet rolls - you name it. But, after my dad died, she started to ease way back, only doing some occasional baking for her grand kids. Finally, she'd ask me to do the baking, and she stopped, completely. When I asked her about it, she gave me the positive/negative state of mind advice.

Then as things with my work place started getting really bad, and a myriad of family terminal health problems started up, I discovered she was right. Almost everything I baked was, while not always a disaster, still WAY below what I normally produced. So, I gave up on baking everything but the occasional 'Jiffy Cake' or store bought frozen pie.

But now, 4 years on from the climax of all of the tragedies, and my decision to leave my job, I really do think I'm back on track. I've baked more cakes, pies and cookies, from scratch, in the past few months, than in the last 10 or more years.

I wasn't sure if this was the best place to post this, but figured it's the best place to see if anyone else has experienced this.

BTW, today's project was a blueberry/blackberry pie. Still too early to cut into it, but I'm anticipating pure bliss.

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My mother taught me to never try baking if I'm not in a positive mind set (Original Post) Siwsan Jan 2019 OP
baking/cooking kind of a therapy after my wife died. IADEMO2004 Jan 2019 #1
I didn't bake or cook after my husband died spinbaby Jan 2019 #4
Well it was a year until the holidays returned before I started again. IADEMO2004 Jan 2019 #5
I have children and a grandchild to cook for spinbaby Jan 2019 #6
Married kids live hours away and hope for grandchildren fading. IADEMO2004 Jan 2019 #7
Food is Love dem in texas Jan 2019 #8
World needs more like you. Live long. IADEMO2004 Jan 2019 #9
I wish I was your next door neighbor 😉 MLAA Jan 2019 #2
I think that advice can be extended NJCher Jan 2019 #3

IADEMO2004

(5,580 posts)
1. baking/cooking kind of a therapy after my wife died.
Fri Jan 18, 2019, 02:21 PM
Jan 2019

Sharing baked goods and memories with family and friends still makes my cheeks wet sometimes.

spinbaby

(15,095 posts)
4. I didn't bake or cook after my husband died
Sat Jan 19, 2019, 02:33 PM
Jan 2019

It was really the only time in my life I subsisted on frozen meals. I think when you cook for someone you love, it’s hard to cook when they’re not there anymore.

IADEMO2004

(5,580 posts)
5. Well it was a year until the holidays returned before I started again.
Sat Jan 19, 2019, 04:58 PM
Jan 2019

Months until I could even sit at the empty table. I very much agree with you.

spinbaby

(15,095 posts)
6. I have children and a grandchild to cook for
Sat Jan 19, 2019, 05:37 PM
Jan 2019

Otherwise I think I’d still be subsisting on Stouffers.

IADEMO2004

(5,580 posts)
7. Married kids live hours away and hope for grandchildren fading.
Sat Jan 19, 2019, 09:35 PM
Jan 2019

I will confess to chocolate ice cream for breakfast.

dem in texas

(2,674 posts)
8. Food is Love
Sun Jan 20, 2019, 02:19 PM
Jan 2019

Just me and my old boy now. When I cook a big meal, I send some over to my next door neighbors who are older than we are or take some to my sister who can hardy get around anymore, I still bake Christmas cookies and give them all away to the family and the neighbors on the street.

Cooking and baking gives me great pleasure and I hope I am able to do this for many more years and in the mean time, I want to spread the love.

NJCher

(35,836 posts)
3. I think that advice can be extended
Fri Jan 18, 2019, 03:49 PM
Jan 2019

to other projects, too. One's heart and mind has to be in the right place for a satisfactory result.

But baking particularly, because there's not a lot of room for error.

One thing I've mastered is having a positive frame of mind most of the time, so I rarely have the chance of starting a project in a negative frame of mind. In fact, I would go so far as to state I wouldn't start a new project unless I'm feeling good about it. That's how important outlook is.



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