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(82,333 posts)
Sun Jun 10, 2012, 09:41 PM Jun 2012

Sex, facing death

My brother -- athlete and veteran -- was dying. I wanted to make his deathbed wish come true, in my own way

By Anthony Swofford
Sunday, Jun 10, 2012 08:00 PM EDT

So with my brother it started with a grapefruit. The word was on everyone’s tongue, as if to say grapefruit was to not say cancer. You say grapefruit, I say live.

—-

A few nights before his death, Jeff asked me to take Jesus into my heart and life. It would have been easy for me to tell Jeff that I’d do this for him. He was in and out of a morphine cloud. I’d been reading to him the Christian inspirational verses he’d requested.

“Brother,” he said, “I want you to live a good life. I want you to have a family. You need God for a family. For cohesion.”

I said, “You know I’m an atheist. I have been since I went to war. I respect your beliefs. I just don’t believe them.”



This is an excerpt from “Hotels, Hospitals, and Jails” by Anthony Swofford. Copyright © 2012 by Anthony Swofford. Reprinted by permission of Twelve Books. All rights reserved.

Anthony Swofford is the author of the memoir "Jarhead" and the novel "Exit A." He lives in Brooklyn, New York, with his wife and daughter.

http://www.salon.com/2012/06/11/sex_facing_death/singleton/

This is an excerpt of an excerpt. The whole thing is worth a read.


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Sex, facing death (Original Post) rug Jun 2012 OP
I saw that story earlier. xfundy Jun 2012 #1
Awww sure, and I'm a stuffy follower turtlerescue1 Jun 2012 #2

xfundy

(5,105 posts)
1. I saw that story earlier.
Sun Jun 10, 2012, 11:01 PM
Jun 2012

Very sad.

Yet, how can someone be expected to believe something they find completely unbelievable? The insistence that maybe if they scream it enough times, some of us will say, "Oh, now it all makes sense!" is baffling. The message now, though, is "Hey, come to my country club! We give out passes to hate while calling it 'love'! It's great!"

Indeed, we will know they are Christians by their "love."

Nothing can make someone an atheist more assuredly than reading the bible, if you can do it. No wonder the Catholics cursed Gutenburg (sp?) for inventing the printing press.

turtlerescue1

(1,013 posts)
2. Awww sure, and I'm a stuffy follower
Mon Jun 11, 2012, 11:50 PM
Jun 2012

perhaps for long enough to understand, you cannot share, demand, insist, give, mandate or otherwise FORCE your beliefs on anyone else. Most of the time you don't have all the answers to your own questions, how then can you feel what you believe can be of any value to another? Need to find your own answers first.

The one thing at my age that still delights is WONDER.

Be it a mellow pink wine, an Indigo Bunting, the smell of lavender or how many varieties of flowers and trees exist. Its the poetry, the artistry, the scents and tastes. IF it ain't about romance, it'll end up being about control and wars.

We've a very small congregation, in the middle of very dedicated Evangelicals. A few are so hard, they are -well as Joyce Meyers puts it "going to church on Sundays don't make you a Christian, you can sit in your garage for a week, but that won't make you a car." Instead of growing tougher, more brash, you mellow.

If we get down to where our problems arise, it is within each of us, vanity, pride and lust. Its as though civilization can't learn, not from its Past long enough and deeply enough to use the lessons for Today. Read Genesis probably 40 times, then one day, WHOA, I'm just like Eve, a little vain and gullible enough to buy deceit..had no idea.

Its not what separates that worries me, its trying to realize what unites us. DU isn't about the greed, the disregard, the bias and prejudices. It is about caring, about justice being equal value of AND for equal value. Its also about being to able laugh at absurdities. I love that I will read new news, and come to DU, and someone already has a thread about it. It means thinking is going on. What if there choice is between stagnation, where rhetoric is questioned, where "platforms" aren't rigid and incapable of being fresh? Where Society isn't about what you have materially, its what you have within as a collection of individuals. The concern is that what the hard hearts have done is diminish acceptance here where there is Unity.

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