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ER having chest pains again. Second time this month. I am worried. Her EKG came out okay but her blood work is not good. More tests throughout the night she has been admitted.
I know this is not a HOF topic, but I feel more comfortable posting here.
I don't know why I have posted this, just feel like I need to talk about it.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)scary. but, she is in the right place. we will be thinking of you both. let us know how it is going.
i am sure after the first they did a good work up on her. how did they say she was last time?
Texasgal
(17,049 posts)so they are concerned.. when she went last time she was given tests blood work, echo etc and it turned up negative. She got a pain patch but the chest pains have come back and have not gone away.
She is getting several tests tonight, monitoring her every 3 hours on blood etc.
Thank you for your thoughts.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)the best to you all. i have never personally experience anyone in that situation. but, they do so much with this now a days, it is amazing.
like you dont know a zillion times more than i. didnt you say you were in a medical related field...lol
Texasgal
(17,049 posts)They are doing what needs to be done with Mom. I am just concerned because her chest pains have not gone away. Not good.
I'm hanging out up here in the hospital, she wants coffee. A big NO NO! LOL! My poor Mom. My Dad is here too but he needs to go home and get some rest. Dad has his own health issues.
I am watching all of her tests and results closely. She did not have a heart attack, but she may have a clot. Doppler is next.
I REALLY appreciate your posts, to ALL of my Women here in HOF. Thank you for your thoughts!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)coffee at this time of night is a no no. i cant drink it after 5-6. last cup. or i never get to sleep.
can you get dad to go home? it is so hard, but they need to. just for a little down time and rest. i hope so. you are there. that works.
Texasgal
(17,049 posts)Just called my brother to come and pick him up. He needs to go home. I am spending the night up here with Mom. She is fighting me every step of the way, but I need to hang out and not my Dad.
Just mentioned food to pops! LOL! He has agreed to go get some tex-mex! Yayy! Maybe my brother can just drive him home!
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)It works. Now that you are not kids anymore, you are all free to take care of each other. As each needs. Your father.... your mother... lol and your brother, they all sound so precious. And you all sound so familiar. And you....
You all have each other.
Don't forget to take care of you, too. So your mom doesn't have to mom you. Lol
Texasgal
(17,049 posts)I will make sure Mom is comfy and Dad can go home and rest.
I feel like we've had the crazy med month, the baby and now Mom. ARRRGGGG!
Thank you so much for your thoughts, I really am a good person in real life!
elleng
(131,457 posts)BEST to you and your mom.
ejpoeta
(8,933 posts)you can do. Be there. Support her. My thoughts are with you. Good luck and hope it passes soon and your mother is healthy and going again.
GreenPartyVoter
(72,388 posts)of healing and comfort.*
Violet_Crumble
(35,992 posts)My mum went through a really bad patch with heart problems late last year and early this year and was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, so I think I know how yr feeling right now. Hospital's the best place for yr mum right now, and I hope they work out what's causing the chest pain soon. Not knowing what's wrong is really scary...
big hugs
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)a hard time breathing. So before my husband went to work I told him maybe I should go to the ER. I wasn't in pain but just felt like books were sitting on the top part of my stomach. Well the ER was busy and they gave me an EKG and they admitted me right away. I didn't know I was in that kind of trouble. I ended up having A-Fib (irregular heart beat). So now I have slowed down alot but I don't over worry about it. I know this is nuts but everyone has a way of coping when things happen. For me I don't want to know. I cope better that way. Other want to know every detail. That is my sister. Even getting shots I always tell the person who is sticking me don't tell me when you do it. Just do it. Others want to know. I also get upset with family who don't normally call all of a sudden start calling me. I don't like it because it tell me I am in really bad shape. Its just a coping thing. Your momma will let you know how she is doing and what she wants from you. Take a deep breath and try not to show her you are worried and scared. She might think you are hiding something from her. God bless you and your momma. Been there. I wish you luck.
Texasgal
(17,049 posts)I am worried,but I am happy that she is stable right now. I hope that the cardiologist can figure out what needs to happen and get it fixed. I am still worried though, the blood work and the doppler worry me.
Thank you for your post, very sweet.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)carry them for me. Here is alittle I try to tell myself when I worry and have no control over. I keep saying I am not going to worry until its time to worry. When it's time to worry there is nothing you can do and you have no choice but to deal with it then I repeat the first sentence. Somehow that helps me. Whatever the deal is you and momma have to deal with it and you will be strong. I know every morning I put my feet on the ground is a good day from god and I thank him. All I want in life is to see my granddaughter graduate from high school. Hope your momma is feeling better today.
DCKit
(18,541 posts)I'm not trying to be a dick. She died where she wanted to be, and i'm still hurting. I should have been there. She cleaned the house, expecting company for Easter last year., and the exertion killed her. My S.O. said no to the trip, the sisters have no excuse.
You're never going to get over it, my sisters don't care, but it makes me sad, every damn day. This year, they asked me how I was going to remember mom - they didn't go to visit or take care of her in any way, but it's my fault she died. I lived with her for two miserable years, but it's all my fault.
Guess that's why we love Republicans. I'm going to be cutting them a lot less slack from here on out.
I am so sorry. What a gut wrenching story. Hugs to you.
My Mom has been an excellent Mother, I haven't always agreed with her on politics, but I love her and I always will.
I'm so sorry to hear your story, and it is NOT your fault. My goodness how horrible of your siblings.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)Your momma wants you to live life and let it go. If you don't you are hurting yourself. You are always going to have some siblings who are going to do the right thing and the others who can't or won't step up to the plate. You find that in many families. You did all you could. I love my on child. He lives next door to me. I very seldom see him. Maybe its good because he really gets on my nerves for so many reasons. But if there is an emergence he comes running. If I see him or talk with him once every 3 or 4 weeks am doing good. But he is there if my husband or I have a health situation. Really I am grateful for that. My granddaughter is only 6 but I see her mostly every day and sometimes she spends the nights or weekend with me. I'm happy about that. You sound like my husband who was an only child and was there for his mother. Who by the way wasn't always the nicest mother. We had to put her into a Nursing Home. We didn't have a choice because we had our own health issues and she broke her hip and we couldn't lift her. She didn't want to go. She was 89 yrs old. My husband went to visit her everyday. I went 3 times a week. When I went to visit she was such a mean person. She would say I took her purse and money when I never touched either. I always handled the medical stuff and my husband handled her financial stuff. My husband would tell her that her purse was where she left it and it was still there. She finally went down hill and she ended up dying in the nursing home. It really did a job on my husband. I told him he did every possible for her. The stress worked on him that it caused seziures for over a yr. You harm yourself when you did everything you could for your mother. Now it's time to live and move on. Your mother would want that. Your siblings will have to deal with their actions.
Tumbulu
(6,292 posts)and how wonderful that you know so much about it all.
I hope that you can get some rest.
Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)My momma had a stroke a couple years ago and it was really scary. I hope the doctors are able to help make your mom well again.
Little Star
(17,055 posts)You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
LS
Texasgal
(17,049 posts)Well, it looks like it's cartilage from her last surgery that is causing the chest pains. She has one more chemical stress test set this morning, if this is okay she will go home today and we will make plans to have the cardiologist remove some of the cartilage in an operative setting at a later date.
Thank you all for your kindness. It really means alot. :love:
hlthe2b
(102,579 posts)So happy for you and yours.
boston bean
(36,228 posts)Please take care of yourself, for your mom.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)and fixable. good news though the experience she will have isnt fun. thank you for letting us know.
i hope you all get some rest and a little down time before the week begins....