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cwydro

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189. My mother is 89. I live at our family farm, but I visit her (and stay with her)

Wed Jul 15, 2015, 02:27 PM

Jul 2015

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almost daily at her home an hour away from the farm.

We lost my father not that long ago, and that's left a hole in her life.

Besides, I'm a worrywart. I treasure her.

Edited to ask: Is there some reason you need to know my living arrangements?

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17 Deplorable Examples Of White Privilege [View all] randys1 Jul 2015 OP

15. If you benefit from white privilege, you’ll never be told to “get over slavery.” randys1 Jul 2015 #1

NAILED. IT. Number23 Jul 2015 #6

shush, you are not allowed to point this out or talk about it. I am a privileged white person randys1 Jul 2015 #7

Yes, and I am southern and none of my family ever owned slaves... CTyankee Jul 2015 #10

The wailing has been as hilarious as it has been expected. NOT ONE of the people talking about Number23 Jul 2015 #15

+1000. nt sufrommich Jul 2015 #17

^This^ malaise Jul 2015 #100

Brutal and true. nt sufrommich Jul 2015 #16

I don't believe that I would ever tell anybody to "get over it". R. Daneel Olivaw Jul 2015 #25

Fact AuntPatsy Jul 2015 #29

Nothing more need be said mcar Jul 2015 #88

a lot of Southern whites never got over losing slavery yurbud Jul 2015 #115

And a lot of non southern whites just cant get over their discomfort with randys1 Jul 2015 #117

PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Liberal_Stalwart71 Jul 2015 #133

Why the fuck can't we rec posts? Glassunion Jul 2015 #149

LOL randys1 Jul 2015 #172

Not 100% true. PowerToThePeople Jul 2015 #154

But we are told to "get over the Holocaust." Behind the Aegis Jul 2015 #165

Ummmmm..... about #1..... Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #2

RIght on que randys1 Jul 2015 #3

Holy shit Batman! The AverageDouche90-signal has been activated: Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2015 #11

LOLOLOLOLOLOL randys1 Jul 2015 #13

Haha! Starry Messenger Jul 2015 #60

Oh my! JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #179

LOL! Bobbie Jo Jul 2015 #218

"cue" (nt) Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #43

No, que, as in you have waited in line to make some of these remarks randys1 Jul 2015 #52

No, that would be "queue". Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #61

Lol! cwydro Jul 2015 #66

OMG the extent you guys will go to deny the fact of my OP.... randys1 Jul 2015 #71

No, we're just laughing that you tried to be clever, but cwydro Jul 2015 #76

distraction BS heaven05 Jul 2015 #94

I'm never surprised by this type in America heaven JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #183

Well, to be fair, you yourself acknowledged that #1 in the list is wrong. Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #78

No, I didnt do that at all, I said it needed a slight revision, I am mad at myself, I managed randys1 Jul 2015 #79

don't even respond heaven05 Jul 2015 #101

Bless your heart. n/t Aerows Jul 2015 #128

It's actually a pity. "Que" would come in very handy in Scrabble. Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #73

My mother refuses to let anyone use foreign words lol! cwydro Jul 2015 #81

You live with your mother? Or just visit her? JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #186

My mother is 89. I live at our family farm, but I visit her (and stay with her) cwydro Jul 2015 #189

still distraction BS heaven05 Jul 2015 #96

You're absolutely right. This is no time to be discussing Scrabble words that contain "q". Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #162

That's not how queue is spelled. cwydro Jul 2015 #62

you do know heaven05 Jul 2015 #97

"To BE expected", surely? (nt) Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #160

Start asking them silly questions! JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #191

When I was seven years old, I awoke to a cop pointing a gun at me FrodosPet Jul 2015 #120

Ummm... about intentionally confusing anecdotal evidence with the realities of the world. LanternWaste Jul 2015 #14

DOJ statistics tell a different story madville Jul 2015 #47

Of all 17 that is the one and only place I would change ONE word only, as you say randys1 Jul 2015 #55

"Internet troll jailed after mocking deaths of teenagers" Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #70

No #1 and 2# stand and heaven05 Jul 2015 #108

Well Randy already acknowledged that #1 is incorrect and requires a rewrite. (nt) Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #161

He can't see your life experience heaven05 JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #192

thank you heaven05 Jul 2015 #211

Careful Nye npk Jul 2015 #219

Although it is true....and didn't use any absolutes, like "never" AlbertCat Jul 2015 #110

Someone here has spent ALL DAY researching to disprove it...think about what that says randys1 Jul 2015 #112

Something was just made apparent to me on this thread randy JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #193

You should articulate what that is, maybe do a new thread about it. randys1 Jul 2015 #195

It's mostly about the company we keep JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #199

true heaven05 Jul 2015 #212

Never have "to worry" about it- not never happens.... bettyellen Jul 2015 #105

So poor white people don't ever have to worry about the police? madville Jul 2015 #155

Nope, scruffy white guys hanging out smoking pot have *nothing* to worry about from the cops. Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #163

OMG you're right. POC have no special issues with racist PDs. bettyellen Jul 2015 #170

My point is that all low income people have problems madville Jul 2015 #171

wow, you think everything is economic- even racial issues. What a fresh and startling perspective! bettyellen Jul 2015 #175

Do poor white people benefit from white privilege? madville Jul 2015 #229

I'm not poor JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #194

Not just poor people of color are targeted by police. gollygee Jul 2015 #224

I'm not disputing that, simply pointing out madville Jul 2015 #227

Poor white people are targeted for being poor, not for being white gollygee Jul 2015 #228

I agree with you and it should be more specific madville Jul 2015 #231

It does sound like that's the intent with the article gollygee Jul 2015 #233

feeling sensitive today, huh????? heaven05 Jul 2015 #92

Try being a Southerner and posting on DU. ileus Jul 2015 #109

<--- Knows the feeling n/t Aerows Jul 2015 #135

I like this one... Cali_Democrat Jul 2015 #4

Yes, or randys1 Jul 2015 #5

18. White privilege means forever being forced to feel guilty for something you don't condone Leontius Jul 2015 #8

Yes, if your biggest problem is having to accept the role white people play in the randys1 Jul 2015 #9

Well...some whites may not own or condone white privilege Cali_Democrat Jul 2015 #12

Excellent point about 911. Even I am still amazed at how bad it is here with white randys1 Jul 2015 #20

I don't deny it. If you think most people here aren't aware of it you're fucking clueless Leontius Jul 2015 #77

my, my heaven05 Jul 2015 #116

"and pretty soon they 'll stop." sufrommich Jul 2015 #131

The reason these threads exist.... CANDO Jul 2015 #215

If people have the ability to "force" you to feel guilt, you should try looking inward... LanternWaste Jul 2015 #18

Should have said "try to force". Leontius Jul 2015 #83

Nobody wants you to feel guilty about it. Iggo Jul 2015 #24

No that's all this shit of a thread is about trying to push guilt. Leontius Jul 2015 #86

feeling guilty huh? heaven05 Jul 2015 #118

I have nothing to feel guilty about for "white privilege" Leontius Jul 2015 #147

THAT'S WHAT WE'RE TELLING YOU! Iggo Jul 2015 #150

Who the fuck is we? Leontius Jul 2015 #157

You see what you want to see, friend. Have a wonderful evening. Iggo Jul 2015 #164

I would not want to create guilt heaven05 Jul 2015 #153

I don't fear anything but I do feel sorry for you Leontius Jul 2015 #156

really? heaven05 Jul 2015 #158

OK this comes off as a huge right-wing (and I mean WAY right wing - like Tea Party) meme gollygee Jul 2015 #225

Every time. Iggo Jul 2015 #148

........ sufrommich Jul 2015 #36

ROFLMAO! Admiral Loinpresser Jul 2015 #166

It has nothing to do with "forever being forced to feel guilty" mountain grammy Jul 2015 #46

Really? Starry Messenger Jul 2015 #69

Actually it means that one has privelege granted by their whtie skin that a neighbor of color jtuck004 Jul 2015 #104

Just a heads up artislife Jul 2015 #119

Well, I don't know about that Prism Jul 2015 #19

Gay appropriation? randys1 Jul 2015 #21

Mmhmm (n/t) Prism Jul 2015 #23

I wasnt clear what you meant, is all randys1 Jul 2015 #27

Note to Prism....Randy is easily provoked. nt clarice Jul 2015 #53

LOL, hey, you cant defend your comments, dont hide them with this kind of silliness randys1 Jul 2015 #56

Note to Prism.....see what I mean?.lol.nt clarice Jul 2015 #65

so are you heaven05 Jul 2015 #126

This message was self-deleted by its author Long Drive Jul 2015 #237

Not following you on the gay appropriation thing... Maedhros Jul 2015 #89

I grew up dirt poor AND white...where's MY privilege DAMMIT !!! I could use some about now. nt clarice Jul 2015 #22

You obviously don't get it philosslayer Jul 2015 #26

No, I think you are the obtuse one. nt clarice Jul 2015 #28

Lets contrast your situation philosslayer Jul 2015 #102

I hear you, but I believe that we are all masters of our circumstances. nt clarice Jul 2015 #107

But we are not masters of how we are perceived by others philosslayer Jul 2015 #125

This is an almost textbook example of white privilege. sufrommich Jul 2015 #137

You may believe it, but it actually isn't true. alarimer Jul 2015 #169

No, he obviously did NOT get it whathehell Jul 2015 #51

He? who's He? nt clarice Jul 2015 #54

I meant this for philoslayer whathehell Jul 2015 #59

My apologies. nt clarice Jul 2015 #63

No problem. n/t whathehell Jul 2015 #68

It's not played enough heaven05 Jul 2015 #129

What about Male Privilege, Hans? whathehell Jul 2015 #143

Hans???? Right. Typical....what about white male privilege? heaven05 Jul 2015 #146

LOL..Check your profile...It says "Real Name - Hans" whathehell Jul 2015 #151

well "dear" back atcha heaven05 Jul 2015 #152

Can't "back atcha me, dear whathehell Jul 2015 #159

we're not talking of other countries heaven05 Jul 2015 #168

Yes we are, because your wildly inaccurate statements compel us to talk about them. whathehell Jul 2015 #203

look at it this way "dear" heaven05 Jul 2015 #209

I thought you were 'done' with me, dear! whathehell Jul 2015 #220

He doesn't realize your last name is Solo and JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #200

RIght here at the OP, 17 examples, didnt you read the link? randys1 Jul 2015 #31

Of course I read the link, and please don't curse. It's unbecoming. nt clarice Jul 2015 #33

Nah, I have to curse, it makes me feel better when I am dealing with people who refuse randys1 Jul 2015 #34

My apologies, I read back over some of.... clarice Jul 2015 #35

Rile me up LOL oh lord...you cant get any funnier randys1 Jul 2015 #37

I for one am glad heaven05 Jul 2015 #132

No - I want her back JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #198

. Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2015 #39

Which curse word bothered them the most? racism? god damn? randys1 Jul 2015 #41

I'm gonna go with the word... link... You filthy animal you!!! nt Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2015 #44

That's a GOOD one. looks like my husband. Handsome devil. nt clarice Jul 2015 #49

super hero huh heaven05 Jul 2015 #134

This message was self-deleted by its author Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2015 #42

What about Male Privilege? whathehell Jul 2015 #64

Me too. tazkcmo Jul 2015 #40

I've gotten strange looks in a VARIETY of different neighborhoods. I know what you mean. nt clarice Jul 2015 #48

. Iggo Jul 2015 #82

BS heaven05 Jul 2015 #136

Hey - maybe she looks like a thief! JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #206

maybe or should I say I guess so..... heaven05 Jul 2015 #210

As a female, I can't walk home at 2:00 am whathehell Jul 2015 #84

??? tazkcmo Jul 2015 #85

Because whathehell Jul 2015 #87

So I'm responsible for that? tazkcmo Jul 2015 #93

Wow.. whathehell Jul 2015 #124

+1000 heaven05 Jul 2015 #139

about as responsible as I.am whathehell Jul 2015 #144

This plus 1000 JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #201

you have had it all your life heaven05 Jul 2015 #127

I'm sorry JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #196

You confuse me. In another thread you were wringing your hands... lumberjack_jeff Jul 2015 #208

K&R Solly Mack Jul 2015 #30

I'm more interested in ending institutional racism. Y'all have at it, though. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2015 #32

We will get back to you when we are at that point where you can feel very randys1 Jul 2015 #38

Post removed Post removed Jul 2015 #50

You are now stalking me because you cant defend your comments and you randys1 Jul 2015 #57

I think it's time for you to stop now. We get it. You don't like Randy. bravenak Jul 2015 #138

Note to Comrade....am I right or what?. nt clarice Jul 2015 #67

GAH! Number #13 yuiyoshida Jul 2015 #45

it does kind of remind me of 'original sin', from my Catholic school days HFRN Jul 2015 #58

It's exactly like that. Bonx Jul 2015 #75

I will frankly admit that I'm a sinner... NaturalHigh Jul 2015 #167

Boy, isn't it great to be such brutal and and bloodthirsty oppressors? 951-Riverside Jul 2015 #72

But but just saying that makes me uncomfy, and whiny. dont you see randys1 Jul 2015 #74

And we revere those racist slaveholding monsters Washington and Jefferson. Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #80

you revere them heaven05 Jul 2015 #140

I'd really like to discuss the contents of the OP, but if I don't agree whole-heartedly... aikoaiko Jul 2015 #90

AFter thread after thread on DU of white people arguing about why they dont have randys1 Jul 2015 #91

So here is my issue with something like that Buzzfeed piece. aikoaiko Jul 2015 #142

It's even more white privilege to be even secretly judgmental about other races in America AZ Progressive Jul 2015 #95

great post heaven05 Jul 2015 #98

It got so bad they had to focus on me misspelling something randys1 Jul 2015 #99

they have NOTHING but that heaven05 Jul 2015 #103

It wouldnt matter to me if I didnt actually care about the horrible damage done to POC randys1 Jul 2015 #106

they don't matter heaven05 Jul 2015 #111

I usually do have fun with them but I also NEVER respond to a certain group, and I blew it randys1 Jul 2015 #113

Ohhh, trust me, I know heaven05 Jul 2015 #122

Mother forgive me for I may have sinned in your eyes seveneyes Jul 2015 #114

Just watched "The Long Walk Home" last night on Netflix passiveporcupine Jul 2015 #121

thanks for the tip, making note now randys1 Jul 2015 #123

A-FUCKING-MEN!! Don't stop speaking truth to power! Love it! n/t Liberal_Stalwart71 Jul 2015 #130

18. White Privilege means you expect a cookie for looking at all 17 of these. Spitfire of ATJ Jul 2015 #141

No cookie whathehell Jul 2015 #145

I've walked from the BART station in Oakland to the Oaks Card room about 10-15 blocks away OnlinePoker Jul 2015 #173

Scottish Girl Told She is "Too Pale" To Board Plane Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #174

She's from Scotland JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #205

This post is racist nt. WDIM Jul 2015 #176

// randys1 Jul 2015 #177

no it isn't heaven05 Jul 2015 #214

Mmm, that's some good racism. Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #178

Yeah dividing people based on the color of their skin. WDIM Jul 2015 #180

Leave Guy Whitey Corngood out of this! JustAnotherGen Jul 2015 #197

17 examples of white privilege is racist against whites? randys1 Jul 2015 #181

It is propaganda using stereo types to cause division and hate. WDIM Jul 2015 #182

It's one of the great ironies of the current age Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #184

this OP is one of heaven05 Jul 2015 #216

Fear, or weary dismissal? Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #239

stop listening? dismissal? heaven05 Jul 2015 #240

You could care less? Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #244

xxx randys1 Jul 2015 #185

Uncover your eyes and maybe you will see... WDIM Jul 2015 #187

There's no arguing with a bigot. [nt] Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #188

None are so blind as those who will not see. nt WDIM Jul 2015 #190

I'm going to let you try to understand the amazing irony of that statement. NuclearDem Jul 2015 #222

And likewise to you. Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #238

Sorry, having your delicate fee-fees hurt isn't bigotry. NuclearDem Jul 2015 #242

Hahaha, it would take a lot more than that. Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #243

I bathe in the tears of impotent little neckbeards. NuclearDem Jul 2015 #246

*snrk* You need to update your taunt-list. Jester Messiah Jul 2015 #247

every time I open my eyes heaven05 Jul 2015 #213

It's racist against whites because wwwaaaaaaaaahhhhhhbb NuclearDem Jul 2015 #223

Same assholes. Every thread. WilliamPitt Jul 2015 #202

Indeed. (nt) Nye Bevan Jul 2015 #204

Been explained to them a thousand times. NuclearDem Jul 2015 #221

This is why I dislike the term, it is more person of color disadvantage TheKentuckian Jul 2015 #207

per your last line heaven05 Jul 2015 #217

What is wrong? You think people should be beaten on, thrown in jail, and killed? TheKentuckian Jul 2015 #236

huh??? heaven05 Jul 2015 #241

Which privileged status is that? I'm thinking you don't know who you are even talking to. TheKentuckian Jul 2015 #245

Number 17 HassleCat Jul 2015 #226

Most of these are not true oberliner Jul 2015 #230

Maybe "never have to worry . . . due to your skin color" gollygee Jul 2015 #232

There are thoughtful, intelligent articles about White Privilege and then there is silly click bait oberliner Jul 2015 #234

OH look romanic Jul 2015 #235