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LostOne4Ever

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17. It is a confused question, and I am sorry for that.
Wed Jan 20, 2016, 04:29 AM
Jan 2016

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#009999]I am struggling to find the correct words to explain this coherently.

There is some debate in the ace community over what exactly "sexual attraction" means. Does it mean desire for other people? Or is it based on feeling of being attracted to others? Or a combination of both? Something else entirely? Is a person asexual if they find people attractive but don't desire sex with others? Or are they asexual if they desire sex with others but don't find people attractive? Or is this an either or situation? Or something else entirely?

While involved in one of these type of discussion one person told me that I shouldn't call a person like I am trying to describe asexual because there are many sexual people who claim to never experience any attraction to other people. Then they said if we considered them asexual then almost half of the worlds population would technically be asexual.

I asked if they had any numbers on that and they didn't, nor could I find any numbers googling. So, being as stubborn and anal as I am on these things, I made this poll (here on DU where people probably never encountered this debate) as kind of an unscientific attempt to test if this claim was true or not.

Are there a lot of sexual people who have never experienced physical attraction to others? Or is that rare. Or would people who identify as sexual call that asexuality. I passed on the vote to avoid influencing the results too much.

In the end, it is another stupid definition debate, and I am sorry for bring it here, but...I just wanted to have some tangible evidence one way or another. From sexual people who don't have any pre-determined opinions on the issue.

No worries about the bisexuality thread. I just like chiming on things like that occasionally.[/font]

PS: I agree with your assessments that asexuality is to sexual orientation as atheism is to religion. Very good analogy.

How and why would someone have sex with "someone that they don't find attractive"? darkangel218 Jan 2016 #1
It a reference to a thing called cupiosexuality. LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #3
when you say attractive Skittles Jan 2016 #2
Yes, exactly. nt LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #4
People have sex with other people for reasons other than attractiveness all of the time Yavin4 Jan 2016 #5
OP was referring to people who apparently don't find anyone* attractive, yet they desire sex darkangel218 Jan 2016 #6
Do they find certain people unattractive? prayin4rain Jan 2016 #7
According to them they don't find anyone sexually attractive. Ever. But desire sex. nt LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #8
I can see a person prayin4rain Jan 2016 #9
I mean, rare. .. not, not possible. n/t prayin4rain Jan 2016 #10
It is fine I got what you mean THANK YOU for posting very much!!! nt LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #11
Can you define asexual? beam me up scottie Jan 2016 #12
For this thread-Asexual: A person who does not have the potential to experience sexual attraction LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #13
I would say it's rare. beam me up scottie Jan 2016 #14
Other... Donkees Jan 2016 #15
I have to say I am very confused. Behind the Aegis Jan 2016 #16
It is a confused question, and I am sorry for that. LostOne4Ever Jan 2016 #17
You're probably talking about someone LuvNewcastle Jan 2016 #18
To me this is all about 'attractiveness' and nothing else and it reminds me of When Harry Met Sally Stellar Jan 2016 #19
Its kind of like masturbation where the other person is merely an instrument of orgasm. aikoaiko Jan 2016 #20
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