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Ocelot II

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37. No, don't do that. Leave her alone. Don't try to get her to do anything.

Sat Apr 24, 2021, 06:30 PM

Apr 2021

Don't let her live rent-free in your head, because clearly you're not living in hers. Just forget about her instead of ruminating about how to get her interested in you again. I know it's hard, but if you keep thinking about her you're just asking for more disappointment and prolonging the agony.

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Advice wanted for great relationship... gone... [View all] ClusterFreak Apr 2021 OP

My guess is that she has met someone else. Croney Apr 2021 #1

Thanks for your comments Croney. ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #16

Could be Delarage Apr 2021 #2

Hi Delarage, and thanks for responding. ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #17

Sorry you are going through this Sanity Claws Apr 2021 #3

Thanks Sanity Claws, I appreciate your words of support and understanding. ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #18

You can't know her motives in this. Because of that, you can't judge them. And she Scrivener7 Apr 2021 #4

Scrivener7... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #29

It's possible that other events in her life have caused this change. Earth-shine Apr 2021 #5

I would take issue with the characterization of her acting like a 15 year old. She has decided to Scrivener7 Apr 2021 #8

I agree NT Rorey Apr 2021 #13

Thanks Earth-shine... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #19

I'm going to offer you some foolproof advice on how to meet women. Earth-shine Apr 2021 #31

I think you make a lot of sense! ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #35

No simple answer, and no simple solution Rorey Apr 2021 #6

I am so sorry to hear what you've gone through yourself Rorey... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #20

Sometimes we don't get answers Rorey Apr 2021 #30

It's clear that my story has stirred up some unresolved feelings for you about your own... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #33

It sounds like you're making great progress Rorey Apr 2021 #38

you sound like the perfect gentleman, if that offends her then it says more about... samnsara Apr 2021 #7

I appreciate your comments samnsara.... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #21

Let it go SheltieLover Apr 2021 #9

SheltieLover, your assessment of the psychology at play here makes a lot of sense.... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #22

Hold on. You kinda glossed over a seemingly important detail. intrepidity Apr 2021 #10

Hi intrepidity... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #23

I'm sorry, but I'm afraid you're going to have to let this one go. Ocelot II Apr 2021 #11

Ocelot II... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #24

It hurts now but I promise you will get over it and move on. Ocelot II Apr 2021 #27

Replace "her" with "him" and re-evaluate. Midnight Writer Apr 2021 #12

Thanks for your comments Midnight Writer... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #25

Sorry you are hurting. Stop. RegularJam Apr 2021 #14

Thanks, RegularJam... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #26

Having to listened to hundred of these kinds of radio calls... Phentex Apr 2021 #15

Great insight Phentex.... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #28

ClusterFreak... LuckyCharms Apr 2021 #32

Great post and great insight LuckyCharms.... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #34

No, don't do that. Leave her alone. Don't try to get her to do anything. Ocelot II Apr 2021 #37

I hear you, but I was really only talking about a chance meeting... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #41

Agree 100%. nt LuckyCharms Apr 2021 #45

LuckyCharms, your situation with your friend Rorey Apr 2021 #39

Hi Rorey LuckyCharms Apr 2021 #44

I'm glad you're okay. Rorey Apr 2021 #46

Could it possibly be this? A story from 2 1/2 men where Paget Brewster Maraya1969 Apr 2021 #36

Oh damn... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #40

So... to summarize... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #42

I'm with those above who have advised you to move on and not try to contact her. Aristus Apr 2021 #47

We're all pulling for you! And.........don't think to much! Maraya1969 Apr 2021 #43

I woke up this morning... ClusterFreak Apr 2021 #48