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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Sympthsical
(9,201 posts)And who also offered advice that was ignored. I have an inkling and a guess on how a case worker visit will go. Just a sense that I've been getting:
The mother has no idea any of this is going on, and someone arriving at the door with all of this would be a total shock to her. Which is why all the potential solutions are getting batted down.
I'd lay an even $5 on it, having read the saga (it's weirdly addictive).
However, if there is veracity in these claims - three hospital visits in a month, no food, declining health - I'm with you. 1. I'm surprised a hospital social worker isn't poking around and 2. a home visit by a case worker would be warranted.
Even if everything is 100% true, a call to adult and aging services would be warranted just to have an outside party there to sort everything out and provide paths to resources. We can give all the advice and links to resources in the world, but that advice and guidance is being filtered through a family member who is adversarial to following through on them. I have some doubt that the mother is aware of even a tenth of the resources others have suggested. If the son has no intention of utilizing them, why would he tell the mother about them?
If this is all true - big if - we may be seeing a situation where the son is prohibiting the mother from receiving proper care, resources, and guidance for her situation.
And that would warrant a call to social services.