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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Sympthsical
(9,197 posts)Taking the totality of the situation, it has grown to start pinging my own sense of NQR (not quite right). I'm not there, I don't know these people, I am loathe to say anything with certainty about strangers from afar.
However.
The poster is offering information that has reached a point where a wellness check by an adult and aging case worker seems warranted. Multiple hospital visits in a month, no food, poor health. Remove the son from the scenario. If my mother was going through this and I wasn't involved for whatever reason, I'd want someone to come ensure she was at least eating.
A case worker wouldn't arrive, take someone away, put the mother in a home, etc. It's not like child services where they'd disrupt their lives. They'd do an evaluation and then lay out the different assistance programs she would qualify for and help her through the process of applying for and accessing them. There are organizations that will either deliver food or provide transportation for food. Further, that worker would speak to the mother away from the son in order to get the story from her without his interference and input. Right now, we have this middle man who is filtering her situation through his own. There is concern in my mind from what is written (assuming true) that the son is actively preventing assistance from occurring.
I don't think this would be an idle, frivolous intervention out of malice. If this story is true - if - then I think an older citizen is being neglected. It's practically being advertised at this point, and it's sitting less and less well with me that its being laid out there so cavalierly.
I promise if a story like this had crossed my path when I was still working in social services, I would have made calls by now and set up a visit to provide resources. A 73 year old with no food and ill health deserves assistance. It is what social services are designed to provide.
The refusing to work fortysomething is a different matter I leave up to the judgement of others.