Reply #6: accept him the way he is... he'll be gone one day. [View All]

My brother had 'disowned' my dad because he didn't feel he was supportive enough about him being gay. Actually my dad was accepting and loving, but as your dad didn't take part in gay events so to speak.

NOW 5 years after dad died, my brother realized he was being too hard on dad and lost all that time with him. It's kinda like you have to accept them the way they are and accept the fact they did not grow up in a time that is as open (though we have a long way to go) and be glad they are still loving parents. Yes, it would be nice if he wasn't uncomfortable in general, but give him time or be understanding of him too.

Do not miss any opportunity to spend time with them... it's much better than bringing flowers to a grave after it is too late.