Reply #17: I have 2 sons [View All]

and I raised them to be feminists.

There are so many mixed messages that both boys and girls receive. I work in a high school and over the years I have seen so many young woman so along with the sex because they think that is what they have to do to get a boy friend. They say "yes" but really don't want to. I told my guys that. I told them that sometimes yes doesn't really mean yes so take the time to get to know someone and be thoughtful and communicative.

The flip side of that occurred when my older son was in college. He actually got razzed by other guys because he refused to take advantage of the girls who got drunk at parties and threw themselves at him. He got called "fag" for respecting women. It really pissed him off. Having sex with a drunk woman was not his idea of a meaningful relationship. He's 26 now and has been in a long term relationship with a woman who had guys take advantage of her, had a date rape drug put in her drink, in addition to some other creepy stuff. She seemed to appreciate that my son took the time to get to know her.

Why guys think it's ok to hit on a woman they've known for 5 minutes is beyond me. Goes the same for women too. I do think that women need to be careful about putting themselves into situations that might later on lead to regret. But lack of common sense is not an invitation to rape.

MzPip
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