Reply #3: I think sexual orientation evolves with one's own consciousness [View All]

Granted much of it is built in, but life experiences also play a role in one's sexual expression of themselves since largely what we are attracted to is a function of how we view it.

It's often why people get married only to discover they are gay.

I myself have gone through this many times..from fantasizing about marrying my third grade teacher (Mrs. Martin...looked JUST like Samantha on Bewitched and I STILL have a thing for Elizabeth Montgomery) to being boy crazy in high school with this nagging feeling in the background...to HAVING female affairs in high school (one with two sisters that led to their mother screaming it outside my house at dinner time...that's how my folks found out BTW) to going out with guys to AVOID dealing with it with my parents...to being SOLELY gay and shutting out men...to realizing that while I prefer women...I wouldn't shut out the love of a man if it really was what worked in my life at that moment.

For me it's all more of a function of using my sexuality to participate with the world rather than separate myself from it.