Reply #78: the female world [View All]

Here is something I do have experience with: the female world. Are you so sure you would feel so alienated in it, with or without surgery? Seems to me the main thing about the female world is the ways that women interact with each other vs with men. It's true that you wouldn't be able to chat about personal experiences with "female troubles," i.e., medical issues relating to female physiology, but that's a very small proportion of the communication anyway and not the most important. It seems to me that the rest has to do more with how women think and relate to one another, which is indeed different from the way men do. (Yes, there are overlaps, but the difference is real.) I would hope that you would be able to share in that. I can tell you, if you don't already know, that it can be very, very good -- warm, empowering, and connecting. Men generally have different priorities and expectations when they interact with women and miss so very much because of it.

I hope that you find that you can indeed find a place in the female world in this sense. I can't see an insurmountable reason why you couldn't if you wanted to.