Reply #27: Isn't that something? [View All]

I gave all my mom's clothes to her mother -in-law, which I was glad to do, because it helped her. She was also the exact same size as my mom and I thought it was a way of not really completely parting with these things that were so personal to her. My grandmother was kind of ungrateful about it expecting me to have all my mom's coats dry-cleaned before I brought them over. Well, there were a ton of clothes and coats as my mom wasn't really one of these people who culled clothes out of closets annually. So my grandma starts checking all these things I was just pulling from the closet and saying "well, there's dust on the collar!!!!!" The price tags were still on a lot of the clothes and she hadn't even worn a lot of them; she just hung them in the closet with the tags on. I'm like WTF, I just drove to her house to deliver the stuff for free, just had given her these things she wanted and now I was supposed to go to the cleaners too. Meanwhile I was in such a state of grief and shock as my mom died young and I was very young when she died and I was barely holding myself together crying every day and you got these damned jackals expecting you to kiss their asses. I shouldn't be saying that about my grandmother, but you know what, I didn't need that crap at the time.

Yeah what is it with in-laws telling the blood relatives what to do. A friends of mine who took care of his mother for about 20 years at his house had a brother out of state who might stop in once a year to see her. The guy could have stopped in way more often as he was a United Airlines captain and could do it for free whenever. SO when the mom died, that pilot's wife was trying to run the whole show. She hadn't even seen my friend's mother for like 20 years but all of a sudden that woman was taking jewelry, other valuables, etc. It's like you'r'e dumbfounded at the gall of these in-laws and others.

I have another friend right now who is going through a situation where there are about 5 brothers and sisters arguing. The one sister who died had a will and somehow this last revised will got "destroyed" as some of the siblings were "cleaning." Also evidence ofd the lawyer she used has also been "cleaned" away from her premises. I suspect she won't be talking to her relatives ever again. My friend saw the will and knew what she was supposed to be getting very specifically. It is in probate now.