Reply #8: thank you--thank you all for the hugs. [View All]

I was actually hoping that she was coming out of a depressive phase... Her mother committed suicide about 3 and a half years ago, and as you might imagine, that sent her into a pretty severe downward spiral that shes spent the last year or so pulling herself out of. She still has a long way to go, but she has made some incredible progress and done alot of things to help herself and get back on solid ground... I really think she's much much stronger than she gives herself credit for. She got a big promotion at work this month, and things were going really well for a while and I was thinking that she was really doing better, but some recent issues with a friend of hers betraying her (loooooong story) has really gotten to her and made things alot worse. I'm sure that part of it is only temporary, but its what seems to have brought on alot of our most recent problems.

I knew what I was getting into, she was very forthcoming about her issues and I have done my best to understand. I want to help her get better, but sometimes she seems to think shes destined for misery and all she can do is bring me along for the ride. I want to break those cycles, but I just don't know if I have the energy anymore. I feel terrible about that.