Reply #99: How about this scenario... [View All]

"If you don't quit whining or talk back I won't hit you but you can't have sex with me"? Sometimes people act in ways I don't understand, even having been in a DV relationship myself. Looking back, too easy to say I should've never stood for what I did.

Give me all your money. Don't talk back. Shut the hell up about my hanging out with my buds drinking/etc. This time I won't hit you but I also won't be close physically.

You give 1 scenario (if husb cheats, say won't have sex) which I understand because I would feel that way but don't see that as manipulative, just stating your boundaries. But the ones I give are all manipulation scenarios that happen in a negative way. For some, it can be like doing the dishes. And maniulation can be abusive.



"Again, "manipulation" is too vague a word to have meaning in this argument for me. I posed this question before, and didn't get an answer. Maybe you don't have one, whatever, but it's a main point of mine." What question? What is manipulation? I don't see one. Thanks.