Pleaes help keep me from turning my fundie psycho aunt into a post-toastie [View All]

Because I swear to gods, I'm THISCLOSE to doing something really vicious. Or, even worse, listening to her.

The deets: MG Jr.'s fourth birthday party yesterday. Fundie psycho aunt in attendance. We were discussing something about Jr.'s upbringing--I forget what--and she blurted out, "Well, your mother raises him more than you do!" I was stunned into silence. My mother jumped in and tried to explain it away as if my aunt meant that something that Jr. did that was naughty was her fault because it happened when she was babysitting him. Didn't work, but it was a nice try. Actually what fundie aunt meant to say was that anything Jr. does that is good is because my mother is raising him.

Now, I should NOT care what this aunt of mine thinks or says, because she's a fundie psycho with a lot of anger management issues who loves to judge everyone in her path in equal measure and without restraint. (Wait...that's the definition of a fundie, right?)

But for her to imply that I was shunting off the raising of my son onto grandma was beyond the pale. Yes, my mother babysits, but not 24/7 and not so I can lounge around the house without the kid bugging me. I have a busy freelance business, in addition to a ripped-up house that needs renovating, and she takes him when I have a lot of work to do and I need to concentrate or when a lot of plaster dust or power tools are going to be flying. (Jr. is in a "Mama...Mama...Mama..." phase.)

I had NO IDEA she felt that way. And I know I shouldn't care because she's, well, a fundie psycho. But I have to admit her comment stung. I'm still hurt and angry today even though I've tried to shake it off.

I love my aunt because she's my aunt, but I really REALLY don't like her much, if you know what I mean...

Any suggestions on how to turn off the Peter Petrelli knee-jerk electric-zap-from-the-palm? :shrug: