Reply #10: My dear friend [View All]

I have been there, and it sucks beyond words.

I have let down kids, and saw them suffer over my decisions. I have found love and lost it, then found it again.

I have watched many die, and this weekend the first woman I ever had sex with was laid to rest at the age of 45 - after being crippled for years and having her husband leave her for a younger and healthier woman.

You are a good guy, one which many women would enjoy to be with, maybe you just do not see that about yourself and I can grasp that myself.

Look at me, a goofy computer geek and then BAM one day some beautiful woman started asking me out.

She had had plenty of wealthy and beautiful men on her doorstep each day. And they were all the same and wanted the same thing.

And then here I am - an overweight not real good looking guy with a smart and beautiful woman telling me I was the man of her dreams.

Me??? Hello? I learned that true love is a lot more than what I had thought. It was not based on what I could do, provide, or look like - it was based on character.

YOU have a really good and loving character, I can see that from my time here.

You don't need someone to validate that, it is self evident. That some don't see that it is their loss, not yours.

If you don't believe in yourself no one else will. You don't have to have a mansion, be a superstar, etc. You just have to be that funny and cool guy you are - for YOU first and foremost.

Be yourself, and the rest will follow.

There is a special someone out there for you in that 6 billion people in this world. And they will be lucky to have you when they find you.

Being hard on yourself won't solve anything. being yourself will - because most people want to be with someone who is real and genuine.

My wife thinks you are an awesome guy based just on your posts, as do I. Some people out there like you for the real you.

Maybe someday you should as well.