Reply #22: The lack of respect for birthmothers... [View All]

on this thread makes me sick. If not for a birthmother, adoptive parents would never BE parents. A birthmother is surrendering HER CHILD to someone else. And yes, it is HER CHILD until she signs those papers, and she has EVERY right to change her mind.

Oh, and just to let you know... a woman who is pregnant is NOT a birthmother. Birthmothers are women who have surrendered already-born children for adoption. Just like people waiting to adopt are not adoptive parents. And pregnant women considering adoption are not "our birthmother". Potential adopters don't own them, and they are not incubators to give infertile couples babies.

Now that I've probably pissed off a bunch of people, I'll finish. My own sister and her husband adopted two girls from China, so I am not anti-adoption. Just anti - bigotted, closed, disrespectful adoption.

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