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I think this situation is more about him being a sexist rather than actual sexual harrassment. The women complain behind closed doors but give the guy a smile or ignore him to his face. No one seems offended enough to get HR involved that I know of... except for very blatant favoritism towards the girl he's been screwing around with. She gets the best projects, and was even snuck into a work-related event that many staff employees wanted to go to, went through the proper channels to request to go to, and were denied. She is a freelancer who went, with this guy I'm complaining about.

To explain further- myself and 2 other guys are supervisors in my department. This clown is one of those two, and the other guy is a very good friend of his. So those two arranged for this girl to quietly go to this event while the people who should have been there were told they could not go. I think that's because this guy wanted the opportunity to spend the day with this girl openly without prying eyes.

The thing is, I do not put up with his crap. Early on he learned that. Early on I learned that this means I'm someone he does not know how to deal with- and that if I am not going to be subjected to this flirty form of demeaning treatment, he will express his point of view that women are beneath him in other ways- like undermining my authority (what little I do have there) in front of other employees.

Hence my concern at this douche becoming my boss.

And my boss that we answer to is a gay man who shows clear favoritism to this guy. In conference calls I've had to listen to THAT guy complain about the women in our organization. If something goes wrong with a guy, it's a serious matter to be taken care of. If there is a problem involving a woman, he sits on the conference call complaining about "women". Which is a whole separate level of disappointment I have, being a lesbian I was happy to have a gay boss at first. But this guy is so bad with it that the company is already facing a lawsuit and his future is uncertain.

It's a whole sexist culture there and growing worse by the day.

And seriously- I really am looking for some resources to help me deal with this daily on a personal level- books, whatever.