Reply #38: The woman is still trash for being the mistress in the first place. [View All]

Sleeping with married people because 'its not your responsibility to take care of the spouse' is some of the worst self justification for immoral, purely SELFISH behavior I have *ever* heard. We're not talking "he lied to me that he wasn't married" deception, which is its own form of disgusting, but 'its okay because *we* are (fill in the blank: horny, in love, stupid, soul mates, whatever).' Its a narcissistic view of the world that is best described as 'morally bankrupt' and I have to believe that karma is going to get her in a very unpleasant way.

Don't mistake my contempt for this woman's vile behavior as an excuse for John; if the child is his, he needs to go for joint custody/regular visitation. The child deserves two parents, if at all possible, but I agree with the wife in this case:

The mistress is pathetic. Hope she likes missing half her child's holidays, if John *is* the father! And if John is the father, he should go for custody/go after HER for child support (which should be a real kick in the pants, if she was keeping quiet for money).

End Rant.

P.S. I'm not going to debate this point further; obviously, 'do not sleep with other people's spouses, when someone thinks there is a committed monogamous relationship' is something I think decent people do, but if there aren't half a dozen 'but it was okay because we were (fill in the blank: horny, in love, stupid, soul mates, whatever)' justifications I will be surprised.