Reply #157: but see.... [View All]

i am a kick ass mom. i admit it, lol lol, wink. but that allows that sometimes, maybe even a lot of times i don't have the energy. i am old compared to a lot of parents. my kids and i talk about it. i don't have the energy the younger parents do, but as my son says, there are soooooo many advantages to an older parent also., sometimes i am in a bad mood. sometimes they are in a bad mood. AAALLLL that is allowed and we embrace it because... it allows all of us to be perfectly imperfect which is a wonderful lesson to the kids. it allows them to embrace their imperfections if i embrace mine.

again this isnt to talk anyone into something, i am so paranoid with what i say on this thread. but part of the job of a parent is, when i am impatient, and i am at times. my oldest talks and talks and talks....... lol lol. when that time comes that i am not.... i am not. he is also intuitive and he will say, it is ok, just not patient now. when a child is loved, and feeels and knows the love,.... we get to be humans, in all our ups and downs. and that is bottom line what a family is about. and it teaches the kids, the rest of the world. they dont live in a bubble

the reason i talk this. i was convinced myself that these feeling and imperfectionsw aren't allowed. and that just is not true

sometimes.... i have to apologize to a child. say i was wrong. then my boys will say "i forgive you". that has been one of the biggest lessons for me. something so simple. and it isnt hard. like i thought it was.

but i will tell you how special you are with relationships with nieces and nephews. parents arent enough. children need more. we use our extended family for love, and that is such a gift to the children, nothing i say to family can express to them, how important their interaction and love is with my boys. but then i give them the same with their children, wink. i see how important being an aunt is.