Reply #49: not true. simply not true. the opposite. i was an athlete. you hear [View All]

no pain, no gain. back in my day. we would chant it. not true. as a matter of fact more chance for success if fitness is done without pain, the gain is massive and chance of continuing greater ergo,... success.

i grew up without having to be punished by parent. i spent three decades punishing self beyond what parents could ever do and thankfully i had parents that recognized this. it was once i let go of the self punishment that self destructions faded. it was not beating me up that kept me on the right track, though i thought it would. it was loving and accepting all of who i am in love, in my imperfection that i walked away from the destructive, that healed me.

the fundamentalist has a tough time walking the path of lite. why? firstly they have so many damn rules there is no way they can be that perfect, and every misstep is self flogging that makes it worse, but.... having been in it and watching for a handful of years i learned,.... from the youngest of age, 4, they would start the chant we are all sinners. decades of telling self you are sinner, you must become sinner to prove self right. what ego does. what if, they chanted we are all lite.... purity, peace love.... then that is what they would become. psychology 101. their guilt does not help them to be better, though they are the one professing guilt is what will make them a better person. it is the opposite.

for clarification,.... love is not lyng to self or anywhere else. it is not love if lying to self. (and that is the most important and destructive.) love is being able to speak truth and still love self. so love is not allowing people to get away with things, or not recognize truth.