Reply #78: i know a lot of guys seem concerned that feminists are broadbrushing all men and your OP was [View All]

a good way of addressing that without jumping on to a thread about women's issues to do so. because when guys do that, they are really trying to derail and devalue the discussion - and feel vinidicated doing so, they explain. because of a single run in with an exceptionally abusive woman.

being pack animals, i think the day to day capacity for cruelty or goodness is to a large extent socially regulated. there's been cultural shift in attitudes towards women since we have entered the workplace and gained some reproductive freedom. A lot of the 'respect' women were accorded back in the day was hard earned for playing the assigned roles of wife and mother. it was like a protection racket. but all bets are off as to what roles people will assume these days, and the respect has often been replaced with confusion, resentment and fear. and that's a little bit understandable because a level playing field will require some sacrifices from men.

it's interesting what people post about their own experiences here- because on every thread some have never seen behavior that others find commonplace, to me, that's facinating. everyone's experience differs based on the group of people around them, but also how that group perceives them. yet, DUers are so quick to blame that people are bringing on negative attention or whatever, and assume everyones surrounding culture is just like their own. actually i've seen that more with women, the wtf you talking about/ never seen sexism in my life, men treat ME with respect so maybe you're doing something wrong. i guess it's our way of sticking our fingers in our ears and saying "la la la la la", much like the men complaining about that one controlloing bitch who it seems, has made a level playing field a non starter.