Reply #104: Yes, most people tell me that [View All]

That's it's their choice and that it's not my fault. I've gotten to the point where I half believe it. That's a reason that I objected to cali's terms. It was almost like saying "Sorry about your childhood, but, if you had been a good parent, like me, your kids would have been great, like mine".

I don't feel responsibility as much as I feel like they could have done so much better. And they way that they both treated us was wrong and abusive. We didn't spank them and it was kind of a shock to have them turn around and act like my ex-husband (more my oldest daughter than my middle daughter) They are both smart and could have done so much with their lives.

I think my middle daughter will turn out OK. She already regrets dropping out of school and that's a good sign. But my oldest... she breaks my heart. I don't feel like I made her turn out like that. But I love her so much and it hurts to see her destroying her life.