Reply #129: being wrong about something, and telling me that I don't know women [View All]

are two different things. When you try to tell me I'm wrong about women without even knowing what my success rate is with women, on anything (understanding them, relating with them, dealing with them, how many female friends I have, how many I've picked up in romantic settings, pick your category...), you are swiping at my balls and trying to get away with it. I've been given the "you don't know women" meme before and most often than not, it's the claim of exasperated women I've met who I've cased PERFECTLY, but don't want to admit it. Men are always supposed to be the ones who are troglodyte chauvinists who don't understand women. When we do call out women on the stupid things that are unspoken (e.g. why do we need to buy you a diamond ring...why are you still impressed by shiny objects?), we are right, but we don't get a "I guess you're right". We get burned for "not understanding them". Or how about not being able to ask a woman her age (I do it all the time because I'm not going to play the "let me delude myself on my age" game with a woman, but it's an unspoken taboo that you can't). I'm fine with being burned...it usually means I hit the woman where it hurts and they're covering for it...but it happens. In fact, I'll be very frank (burn away, so-called feminists): most of my female friends have been full of shit on so many issues. I could start with boyfriends they date who don't match their idealized goals in partners (wanting the good man...but actually dating "player" bad boys). I never leave a "talk" session with one of my female friends not feeling boggled about why they act the way they act. I understand the complex emotional and intellectual reactions they have to things in life and why they react that way, but I don't understand why they continue banging their head against a wall by taking the same actions again and again and again. Definition of insanity: doing the same things expecting different outcomes. I suppose I should add the corrollary: of course, not all women are like this.

As for learning from the thread, I'll learn what I think makes sense. In other posts, I think people are just trying to squirm by and cover for what is at its base a way of projecting domination of the road. Nobody really likes to admit that they want to drive fast to have something to compare with others.

Call me mysoginist, but I find most of the women I relate with to have different levels of bullshit. Some are benevolent and not very intrusive in our friendships...others mark the very core of the woman in question. The more intrusive it is, the less likely I am to keep the friendship or relationship.

As for the boys (because, of course, I MUST talk about the boys to give the appearance of fairness...lest I beckon the DU feminist wannabees), for the most part, most men I do meet are very simple-minded. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but at least we admit where we are. You never see a Joe Sixpack trying to cover up that status.

Anyway, big tangent, but I had to make a little course correction here to take care of this discussion.