Reply #213: No rejection of the core thesis of a war between the sexes [View All]

I think that's why discussing misogyny seems to equal misandry to the false equater. Men and women are "opposite" sexes engaged in perpetual conflict to them. Anything that's pro-woman is anti-man in that zero sum game. Everybody on one side versus everybody on the other doesn't leave any room for some of one "side" to be different from others on the same "side", or even for the listener to be different from some or all of the others on their "side". They have internalized the battle of the sexes so deeply that anything that's pro-woman is anti-them personally for a male listener, or anything that's pro-man is anti-them personally for a female listener. What's needed is to reject the war entirely, and all its us and them categorizations and generalizations.

Sex is a biological characteristic of an individual body. Gender is both a social, cultural construct and a property of mind. They are part of what makes an individual who they are, but only a part. We're not a bunch of walking bathroom signs, we're people, three-dimensional and whole, no two alike.