Reply #99: Her attempt at public humiliation doesn't make me respect her. [View All]

Most of us don't have that luxury of going on Oprah to plant a scarlet letter on the other woman/man's forehead. She's using her position of privilege and power to use the media to get back at the woman, and it's hard for me to respect that. She's entitled to however much anger and resentment and betrayal she wants to feel, but her actions are irresponsible and privileged. I wouldn't like it if Olbermann or O'Reilly or Limbaugh used their media power to get back at a woman over a private relationship problem.

The other issue is that the baby may well be John's, in which case the other woman will likely be a part of their life if he has visitation ... and her child, who is innocent in this, doesn't deserve anything Elizabeth is dishing out. When parents divorce, they have an obligation to protect their kids from their private quarrels and get along for the kid's sake. The same goes for their partners all around. It's not an easy thing to do, to put the needs of a child you never wanted above the emotional need of your own to get revenge or broadcast to anyone who will listen how you've been wronged. But it is the more mature action - to put the child's emotional needs above your own. (Elizabeth probably could use some counseling on that point.)