The enabled closet kills?

This is a post from the blog Pam's House Blend:


The enabled closet kills?
by: pam
Fri Jul 27, 2007 at 09:00:00 AM EDT



I recently blogged about David Amsden piece in New York Magazine, "Married Man Seeks Same for Discreet Play," an eye-opening look at the "open closet," where professional men with families are pursuing same-sex desires with abandon because the Internet has made it easier to hook up.
The subject of the article, "William," leaves his wife in the dark about his encounters with men, not because he's a self-loathing fundamentalist, but because he wants to maintain the heterosexual privilege that comes with his marriage to his wife. Even though he considers himself to be liberal politically, his behavior only reinforces the belief that same-sex relationships needs to remain underground and that our relationships should not be treated equally in open society.

This is the world that William -- and the anti-gay hypocrites would like to preserve -- public "purity" and piety for all, with a blind eye to the fact that many in their midst are engaging in dangerous sexual behavior that hurts their families. Out gays and lesbians in committed relationships who want to marry are the threat in their minds. The curtain is pulled back from time to time to expose the fraud -- from the high-profile former megachurch pastor Ted Haggard, to a state rep Florida's Bob Allen (arrested at a Titusville park after asking a male undercover cop if Allen could blow him for $20), to a NC county commissioner and head of the Christian Action League caught with a hooker. These public exposures of hypocrisy have done a good deal of PR damage to the fringe anti-gay right, but it's not a mortal blow by any stretch of the imagination.

While "William" is placing his wife's health at risk in order for him to fulfill his sexual desires and preserve his public image, the pathology of the closet and fear of social disapproval and potential legal ramifications of being exposed will drive some to desperate measures. Right wing take note -- this one's on your hands:

Police have charged a Reno, Nevada man with trying to hire a hit-man to kill his wife so he could avoid a messy divorce and be able to live with his same-sex partner.
Reno Police say that James Gau, 50, sought to have his estranged wife murdered so that his gay relationship would not become public and possibly lead to his being denied custody of the couples six children.

http://www.pamshouseblend.com/frontPage.do

and it's always women and children who suffer for it.

Bad kids tear apart their parents, bad wives tear apart their husbands.