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BurtWorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 04:58 PM
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Poll question: Do you think it should be legal for homosexual couples to get married?
Edited on Wed Mar-10-04 05:06 PM by BurtWorm
http://tinyurl.com/2afxn

Interestingly, in the Washington Post/ABC Poll, a majority strongly believes it should be illegal for gay couples to marry.

Legal, STRONGLY 24%
Legal, SOMEWHAT 14%
Illegal, SOMEWHAT 11%
Illegal, STRONGLY 48%
DK/No opinion 3%


Except when one demographic is cross-tabulated--an important one: age of respondent. Young people (18-30) are the only group that strongly believes gay marriage should be legal

18-30 31-44 45-60 61+ All
Legal, STRONGLY 45% 24% 17% 11% 24%
Legal, SOMEWHAT 18% 15% 15% 9% 14%
Illegal, SOMEWHAT 10% 13% 9% 9% 11%
Illegal, STRONGLY 26% 46% 55% 65% 48%
DK/No opinion 1% 2% 4% 6% 3%

<Forgive the skewed presentation of the numbers. A more legible presentation is at the URL above.>
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neverborn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 04:59 PM
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1. Just like interracial marriage...
People will see the light one day.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:09 PM
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34. Let's hope so
I'm in a gay/interracial relationship!
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elfwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:01 PM
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2. Who voted Illegal, SOMEWHAT?
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MilitiaEthridge Donating Member (6 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:07 PM
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4. Disappointed
I'm very disappointed that even after events in SF, Kerry has stuck to his position opposing Gay Marriages, opting instead for civil unions. I suspect he personally supports Gay Marriage, but is too scared of the polls to say so. Separate but equal lives on.
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elfwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:09 PM
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8. Now there are several ILLEGAL, Strongly
How is this happening and why aren't these people chiming in on why they could support such a position?
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BurtWorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:19 PM
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11. Because they're afraid--and who can blame them?
I'm impressed with the 80% strongly believing in the legality of gay marriage myself.
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elfwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:20 PM
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12. I can uderstand the fear but...
Edited on Wed Mar-10-04 05:21 PM by elfwitch
If you are going to come out for such an intollerant stqance, you better be prepared to back it up.
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MilitiaEthridge Donating Member (6 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:23 PM
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13. Agreed Elfwitch
I wonder if they're brave enough to back up their position. I doubt it.
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elfwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:27 PM
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14. I just don't understand how anybody would agree to a ban
on something so private as a marriage. I've said this many times, any marriage is hard enough. If you multiply the trials of marriage with the trials of being openly gay, any gay couple that would want to step up to the plate on this one is a hero in my book.

How anybody could be against two people solidifying their love with a marriage commitment is beyond me.
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:32 PM
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MilitiaEthridge Donating Member (6 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:37 PM
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17. I didn't say it was intolerant
The point I was trying to make was that it's a chickenshit political dodge. It's saying "here's something just as good, no need to thank us". Maybe it is just as good, but it reminds me of education pre-Brown v. Bd. of Education, and I deplore the fear that keeps a candidate from simply supporting Gay Marriage. I agree it's largely symbolic on my part, but it's that same symbolism that scares the hell out of so many.
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elfwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:38 PM
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18. It is people who are against any of it...
Civil Union, Marriage, Legally or Spiritually bound to another person in such a way that it would give them the same rights and privileges as any hetero couple that does the same.

What difference does it make in what you call it. The point is that people are against letting certain segments of the population from enjoying the same rights as others do. Call the legal status it what you will but denying that right to any segment of society is wrong.
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adamblast Donating Member (219 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:57 PM
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22. Who says that it *IS* changing the definition of marriage?
All this one-man-one-woman crap is being written into laws and state constitutions these days precisely because it *WASN'T* the original definition.

As far as I'm concerned, the TRADITIONAL definition of marriage is a public and legal committment ceremony between two people who have pledged their lives to each other as a couple.
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 06:14 PM
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Solon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 06:18 PM
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26. By whose tradition?
Edited on Wed Mar-10-04 06:27 PM by Solon
It depends on which religion/tradition takes precedence in law and constitution in this country. Not all traditions or religions view religion in the same light, and so to put in an amendment would be the establishment of a particular worldview/religion, THAT is unacceptable.

ON EDIT: Wanted to clarify my position on gay marriage, and partially why it is personal to this Straight Male. I am to be best man in the marriage of my best friend and her girlfriend this summer. What right does anyone have defining marriage for them? My other reason is this, I am in a religious minority, and one that does officiate same-sex marriages, any amendment banning them legally, is one that is a direct attack on my religion. That is unacceptable, a matter of faith and human rights. Shame on those who think it is acceptable to discriminate against, not only gays and lesbians, but those who want to share in thier joy. I'm disgusted by those attitudes.
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foreigncorrespondent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:06 PM
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31. Excuse me...
...but are you accusing people who understand the original purpose of marriage liars, because it doesn't fit in with YOUR idea of things?

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foreigncorrespondent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:03 PM
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30. Not intolerant...
...but it most certainly is SEPARATE BUT EQUAL!
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youngred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:10 PM
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35. Brown vs. The Board of Education of Topeka Kansas
"Seperate but equal is ineherently unequal"

That is all one needs. But if that isn't enough there is also the 1st, and 14th Amendments.
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Xithras Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 06:05 PM
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23. I think you'll find
that few of the people who oppose legal gay marriage here do so because they oppose gays. I voted "Illegal Somewhat" for the reasons I outlined below...I think that ALL government sanctioned marriage should be illegal. It's time to end government support of religious institutions, and extending marriage rights to gays simply bandaids over the problem until the NEXT group chimes in that they want marriage.

Don't extend marriage, eliminate it. Civil unions for everyone!
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adamblast Donating Member (219 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 06:16 PM
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25. The libertarian "get government out of the marriage business" is fine, BUT
irrelevant to the cause of equality.

You think gays should remain 2nd class citizens (with only peicemeal rights granted one-by-one) until over 35 million straight couples agree to turn in their marriage licences??? Get real.
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kayell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 07:15 PM
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28. Yes, people who say they are for civil unions for all, so won't
support gay marriage are de facto supporting the continued exclusion of gays from the benefits that heterosexual couples receive. Realistically, marriage is not going to disappear overnight, or any year soon. Meanwhile what should gays and lesbians do in these peoples opinions?
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youngred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:07 PM
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32. freeper disruptors
and general homophobe idiots.

sadly
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:03 PM
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3. Slowly, but surely...
There's an article on MSN that says a new poll states the majority are for civil unions now, that's some progress.
Maybe people are figuring out they're being distracted from the major shaft they're getting on other issues and they'd just as soon compromise. It's a start, I suppose.
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Xithras Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:08 PM
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5. Get government out of marriage
I don't think that government should be in the marriage business AT ALL. Ban government sanctioned marriage, and replace it with across the board civil unions. A civil union should be legally treated as a private corporation...assets and income are pooled between the parties in the union, rights of legal guardianship are granted to the members of the union, and taxes are assessed against their income as a group instead of individually. And that's it...no other special rights or privileges.

If a man and woman, two men, two women, three women, nine women and a fat guy, a brother and a sister, a guy and his dog, or a parakeet and hamster want a union, I say GIVE IT TO THEM.

If you want to get married, go to a church. If your purpose in marriage is to devote yourself to another and swear your love and dedication before a crowd, you SHOULDN'T need the governments permission to do it.
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BurtWorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:12 PM
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10. Seems like an arbitrary distinction.
I'm married, not in a civil union. We were not wed in a church. Neither one of us believes in god. But we're married. What's the big deal?
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Xithras Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:44 PM
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20. Nothing arbitrary about it
If I may ask; Why did you get married? What was the actual purpose in your going down, paying your fees, going through the ceremony, and declaring yourself married? What advantage does "marriage" offer over simply living together?

Most people fall into one of two camps.

1) Camp one does it for legal and financial reasons. They want to share the assets, tax breaks, and legal benefits of being married. They plan on staying together forever, but see marriage as a simple legal technicality to formalize their union. For this group, there is no need for marriage, a civil union will do.

2) Camp two marries for religious or social reasons. They want to be married in front of their friends and family to declare their love for each other. They also want the shared assets, legal breaks, and inheritance rights conferred by marriage, but that's secondary to the social and religious aspects.

While number two is a nice reason, there is absolutely no purpose in having the government involved with a SOCIAL or RELIGIOUS tradition. Give them a legal union, and tell them to see a priest if they want "marriage".

Whether or not you or I like it, marriage IS traditionally defined as the union of a man and woman. The fight over gay marriage right now is centered on whether limiting the rights imposed by marriage to straight people is discriminatory (which it is), and whether those rights should be extended to gays. While pissing fundies off may be fun, THIS IS POINTLESS. What we are seeing, right now, is why the founders of this nation wrote the 1st amendment to keep government out of religion. Marriage is a religious institution that has been accepted and embraced by the government, and now that the government is trying to change that religious institution, you're seeing the predictable Christian backlash. Instead of fighting over religious definitions and terminology, the government should cast it out and replace it with a newer, FAITH NEUTRAL way for couples and groups to gain the benefits and rights of a permanent union.

You say that marriage is a club, and that government should open the door a crack to let another member in. I say KNOCK THE CLUB DOWN and build a park where everyone can play equally.
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BurtWorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-11-04 10:43 AM
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36. Why give "marriage" a special status it hasn't had
just because gay people want it? Why not invent a new concept, "religious union" to distinguish it from secular marriage?
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Columbia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:40 PM
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19. My sentiments exactly
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boobooday Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:08 PM
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6. I teach college students
And they are so NOT hung up on the whole gay/straight thing. A few of them still have the phobias passed on from parents, but by an overwhelming majority they think it is just no big deal.

It bodes well for the future. :-)

http://www.wgoeshome.com
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Trinity Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:08 PM
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7. I think Marriage itself is illegal since it violates.....
Edited on Wed Mar-10-04 05:10 PM by Trinity
....the church state seperation clause. the only thing legal should ONLY be civil unions
:shrug:


then again it may just be me...... :eyes:

Edit: just to clarify I have no qualms with civil unions between anyone, multiple SO's fine etcc...


I'm just happy with my SO and only my SO forever ;-)



Peace :hippie: :smoke: :freak:
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TX-RAT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:09 PM
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9. I vote legal
I've been married for 30 yrs....why should i be the only one thats miserable.
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Fight_n_back Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:28 PM
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15. It is already legal
which is why the right wing needs an amendment before the courts recognize it as such.
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BBradley Donating Member (645 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 05:55 PM
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21. The government shouldn't be in the business of sanctioning marriages.
Civil Unions for all.
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Neecy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 07:00 PM
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27. let's look at it this way
In the state of Kansas, it's legal for a 12-year old girl to marry with parental consent. Yes, a 12 year-old girl can marry, but not a grown adult who actually, um, has paid taxes for years and perhaps contributed something more to society than a child.

Many whom we would consider 'children' have limited marital rights in this country, particularly in the red states who want to deny us the same rights they give *children*:

http://www.law.cornell.edu/topics/Table_Marriage.htm

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louis-t Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:02 PM
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29. I have to say, I don't understand homosexuality...
I don't accept it as being normal, but then who the hell am I to tell someone they can't get married? And who the hell is B*sh to change the Constitution to prevent gay marriage? And just how does gay marriage threaten marriage as an institution? I heard one nitwit on a news show who, when asked that very question, replied "Ever heard of incest?" That was her answer! Sheeesh! Remember, incest is illegal, pedophilia is illegal, poligamy is illegal, being gay is not. It might be if ****** is re-elected.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-10-04 08:09 PM
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33. I w ish this poll
reflected ALL Americans!
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