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I discovered this disturbing fact only recently.
My niece was offered an opportunity to open for the Texas Tornados at the Texas Music Hall of Fame. I volunteered to baby-sit my young nephews so that my brother and sister-in-law could better enjoy this rather special event. My sister-in-law was good enough to grab take-out food before they left, so that I wouldn't have to cook while managing her obnoxious brats. I thought this was a nice gesture. They live outside the delivery range of the pizza joint, and I'd much rather eat breakfast cereal than corral my nephews long enough to pick up fried chicken.
Unfortunately, her choice of food vendors was not a good one. After eating, I was stricken with significant gastric upset, including severe gas. To be blunt, I've been burping and farting for the last three days. So by recent definition (I guess I know who I am), I am now a Misogynist. True, the recent definition requires that I also be a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal, but the Neanderthal race has been extinct for some time, and in forty-odd years I've yet to encounter a human who was physically capable of knuckle dragging. So I assume that part of the definition was simple literary embellishment. Hence my assumption that the remaining elements of this new definition apply to me.
This comes a something of a shock. Anymore. I've always made an effort to interact with people with no regard for their race, religion, or gender. In truth, classifying people based on complexion, blood chemistry, or mythological orientation seems foolish and more an indicator of the observer than the observed. I'm human (rather than Neanderthal), so surely I've made mistakes in my social interactions, but I do make a sincere effort to judge people on their qualities, not their classification. I've worked with, and for, a number of females in my life, and I've yet to find any embarrassing attitudes toward gender-based competence lurking in my soul. Active soul searching has not revealed a significant sexual double standard to stain my being. In fact, I find I use the term "slut" or "whore" in a gender-neutral way, to indicate any person with limited sexual dignity. I honestly believe that I award respect or disdain as it is earned rather than basing my perception of an individual on any kind of physical or cultural classification. I don't suppose that I've been entirely successful, but I've always thought I was doing okay. Until I ran into that bad barbecue the other night. (Brrrp)
So I guess it's time for a confession. There is one social class that I find I resent as a group, with no consideration for individual qualities. This rapidly growing social aggregation seems to have no gender, racial, or religious definition. It is composed of bitter females and their Stepford-husband supporters who view males as the ultimate source of all things "wrong" and "bad". They are the Misandrists. These people treat me as morally and mentally suspect because I don't have to squat to pee.
A perfect example of the misandrists attitude was demonstrated in a recent post on this board. A (very) regular (female) poster spewed out a hate-filled, inarticulate, and threatening diatribe by way of lashing out at an earlier post that used thoughtless and inaccurate phrasing to lambast a prominent female figure. The post that triggered so much hate-filled backlash was in extreme poor taste, possibly sexist, and demonstrated limited thought for the topic and limited literary skill. In short, it was a typical GD post. The misandrists leaped on the utter lack of profound insight displayed to once again disparage all things male. And the attack itself was a sterling example of the attitudes under attack. The misandrists are at least as narrow, angry, and thoughtless as the misogynists they see hiding behind every inarticulate or mindless exposition.
So I want to get a few things off my chest.
I don't like to ask for directions when I travel. In the last couple of years, I've questioned several males and found out that my position has merit. The overwhelming consensus is that: The clerk at the convenience store LIES! In thirty years behind the wheel, the only times I remember being lost or being significantly delayed on a trip was due to absolutely horrible directions given by a stranger. I have started arguments in checkout lines as multiple courses competed for my acceptance. I have lobotomized clerks by asking "Can you tell me how to get to ...?" The variety of experiences I've had in asking for directions is limited only in that I don't remember an instance of clear, concise instructions that took me to the desired destination. I don't ask for directions, because frankly, I'd rather be lost than go through that kind of crap. So my self-reliance and confidence makes me a target for the misandrists. Hmm...
Because I'm male, it is assumed that I have had a significant number of sexual partners. Someone please explain how males are banging everything that doesn't run from them while females are completely virtuous. Homosexuality and bestiality provide a partial solution to this enigma, but that's a limited explanation at best. If men are so promiscuous, doesn't that imply that females are too? I caught my first wife in an "embarrassing" situation before we had been married three months. I received several midnight phone calls over the years from irate wives accusing her of fooling around with their husbands. I broke my vow of monogamy in reaction to the third time my first wife broke down in a tearful confession of multiple affairs. I decided then, and believe to this day, that "one night stands" are demeaning and disgusting. My second wife required panic stricken pregnancy tests, on two different occasions, in spite of the fact that I'd repeatedly verified the effectiveness of my vasectomy with laboratory testing. If you've been keeping count, that's two for two, folks. The assumption that men are naturally more promiscuous than women is a misandrist myth. My experience, both personal and as an observer, indicates that the opposite may be true.
I was in the Army for six years. I separated as a Staff Sergeant. I've yet to meet a woman who knows what "clean" is. Testosterone has in no way impaired my abilities with a broom, mop, or polishing cloth. And yes, I wash dishes and do laundry. Regularly. I don't give a damn who you are, I can cook better than you can. I can stock kitchen shelves with more nutrition, for less money, than anyone I know. I can select tasteful furniture and matching drapes. That's not my opinion. The claim is based on numerous complements over the years. I can sew my own clothes, make my own curtains, and in recent years, I've had several opportunities to counsel women on fabric and notion selection in the fabric store. My testicles in no way impair my ability to manage a home.
I'm sick of showing up for a dinner date in two hundred dollar Italian slacks and a handmade silk tie to escort a woman who's wearing jeans and a T-Shirt. Ladies, if you aren't comfortable in stylish clothes, don't wear them on the first three dates. That's false advertising, plain and simple. I'm sick of the misandrist myth that men become bored or disinterested at the drop of a hat. My experience has been that too often, women go to extremes to create a false image of themselves, then feel insulted when a man is disenchanted with the real thing. Yet when a male presents the reality from the beginning, he is a tasteless, farting Neanderthal. Under no circumstances would he be considered simply "honest".
The point behind this rambling diatribe is that there is an increasing undercurrent of hostility on this discussion board. The Misogynist / Misandrist arguments are simply a visible, and irritating, example of a more general tendency towards combat tactics in debate. I suspect that the recent GD restrictions experiment was an indication that I'm not the only one who notices this. In short, it seems that the ghost of Rush Limbaugh is infecting DU. Political debate has been eliminated in the U.S., in favor of combative polarization of various viewpoints. This trend is damaging our ability to function as a democracy. I doubt that anyone would argue this point. But DU exists as a focal point for opposition to the failing political system in this country, not as a focal point for opposition to Republicans, opposition to Greens, or opposition to men. If you are simply looking for a no-holds-barred, vitriolic argument, hang out on USENET. I'd like to believe DU has a higher purpose.
I was off the board for several months. Since I've returned, there seems to be a significant drop in the number of extensive, carefully considered, and carefully crafted topics that arouse thoughtful debate. The trend seems to favor short, often incoherent posts that showcase the writers inability to spell, compose a sentence, and state an opinion. Many of these posts merely serve to prove that the writer knows language that would embarrass a sailor. I did see one recent post that had perhaps three words that one would unselfconsciously use in front of one's mother. It was a response to a public statement made by a high government official, and I thought it entirely appropriate and to the point. But that is a rare exception to the recent trend in profanity. But the vulgarity, literary incompetence, and incoherence is only important in that it is linked to the troubling lack of content in more and more posts. The trend is toward juvenile "look at me!" posts, political "you are invalid!" posts, and the more general "I keep my brain in the refrigerator!" posts.
The problem is, DU is an important resource in increasingly troubled political times. If the current trends continue, the one-line zinger topics and "you suck because..." attacks could degrade the board to the point where it is just another internet server catering to bored social cripples who can't type fast enough to hang out in Yahoo chat rooms. So the next time you post, ask yourself: "Do I really have something to say?" And before you blast away at the idiot, indulge yourself with your favorite beverage, and consider whether anything you might say will make a difference. The future of DU as a dynamic political resource might depend on it.
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