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thing but jamming the deranged woman's husband is rather rude. I like what one of you said here: tell the woman's hubby to go get help for both of them; that's a much better suggestion than calling his wife a pig. That language and emotion isn't productive.
I live next door to some wild people. A mother and her adult daughter and grandson. The daughter is loud, bawdy, foul mouthed, and dresses like a slut. She yells at her kid and it's heard down the block. The mother can't detach from this situation so she is constantly in fights with the daughter. In short, these two are extremely dysfunctional. The daughter is more likely Bi-Polar. The mother is co dependent. After two years living next to the door-slamming duo, they get friendly with us. I mind my own business but I'm curteous to neighbors.
Pretty soon the mother is telling me her woes with her adult daughter and worries about the boy. Then police and fire personnel start showing up. The daughter is outside in the parking area yelling obscenities over her phone to her mother. The mother moves out a couple times but keeps coming back to check on the house. She still pays the daughter's rent. Finally the mother wants US to become involved in their drama. She wants us to report to the police/CPS any time the daughter yells at her kid.
Finally, I had to tell her over a phone call (she was drunk) that we didn't agree to any interference between her and her daughter. IF we saw marks or something telling on the boy, we'd act as good citizens. But absent of that, we did not want to become tangled in their sorrows. We have our own problems.
I went over to talk to the daughter to tell her in no uncertain terms that WE DID NOT WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN THEIR FAMILY BUSINESS. I sat down with a cup of coffee to have a frank talk with the daughter. I can be pretty serious when I need to. The daughter understood me clearly. The daughter never really bothered us in the first place except for her loud behaviour. The mother, on the other hand, still tries to call and get us to go over and check on the daughter!! I simply ignore the calls. If the mother comes here to talk to me face to face, I'll have to tell her the same thing.
Beyond that, we stay to ourselves and do not allow ourselves to be caught up in their crap. We are not rude, we are frank. We will say hello if addressed by them...that's it. I've also learned that "NO" is a wonderful word/tool. Don't get involved in neighbors business, don't call them names, stay to one's self. Works wonderfully.
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