Daughters cause divorce;

http://slate.msn.com/id/2089142/

In the United States, the parents of a girl are nearly 5 percent more likely to divorce than the parents of a boy. The more daughters, the bigger the effect: The parents of three girls are almost 10 percent more likely to divorce than the parents of three boys.

The scientist in me finds this facinating. I'm going to have to find a way to work this into my "Pan-Global Sexuality Theory".

Sheesh. I better call my lawyer.

mine threatened to kill me tonite because i dared to ask how her doctor's appointment went. there she was in her "do-rag" and full gangland stance with more hatred in her eyes than i care to ever see again in my life. i won't give her the satisfaction of divorcing her daddy/the man i love. poor hubby's in the middle. hope i'm here to talk to you guys in the morning...

...or better still taking her down and dropping her in real "gang land". Chances are she's wearing all the wrong colors just cuz they look cool, and wouldn't last 5 minutes.

even if you can't get anyone else to go initially. Do it.

She never threatened to do anything to me, however, I did learn a long time ago not to ask her about anything. I compliment an lot and am grateful anytime she notices I exist. It comes with the territory.

my mouth is now zipped forever, or until May when she grads h.s. and is OUT of here forever. so can't exactly put her across my knee as she is a large girl AND 18. she'd probably press charges. time - the great healer, i'm counting on this!

edited to add she does go to an anger mgmt counselor once a month, who will be getting a call from me today.

I have 3 daughters, one of which is a step-daughter.

Cheers
Drifter

who has both a stepmother and stepfather, I can't imagine that kind of behavior. I've usually gotten along well with my stepparents, even more so when I entered adulthood and a lot of the issues causing tension (visitation, latent jealousy, etc.), weren't issues anymore. It probably helped that I've had both of them since early childhood.

and they both live with me.
Save your hard earned money for them, not the lawyers.
they'll love and respect you for it.

dp

My female cousin got married, granted it was to a lunkhead to begin with. They had a girl, and one month later they split up. About a year after that they finalized their divorce.

Used to be your mom you blamed.

Now it's your daughter.

I have three daughters.

Nahhhh....I love my wife, she loves me, we love our kids, they love us. Don't see it happening.

weird statistic
:shrug:?

My wife and I work as a team toward raising our daughters,no damn way do they divide us into taking sides or fighting between ourselves over something they've done or want to do.

But..we've made it pretty clear from the get-go that we don't take crap from our kids and they are pretty well behaved IMO--I've seen lots worse.

David

There were times (when all the girls were in their teen years) that home life was, shall we say, interesting. Drowning is estrogen and buried in paper products. The grandson was a gift from god.

Now..of those

1st born had 1 each-boy/girl-divorced
2nd born had 6 5 boys/1 girl-death did them part
3rd born had 5 3 girls/2 boys-death did them part
4th born had 1 each boy/girl-divorced
5th born had 4 3 boys/1 girl-separated 30 years/married 10/never divorced
6th born had 4 2 boys/2 girls-divorced
7th born had 1 boy-divorced in 2 weeks(she only got married to have a kid-hey, she was a preacher's kid-had to at least pretend she cared about convention)
8th born had 7 4 boys/3 girls-death did them part
9th born had 4 3 girls/1 boy-divorced in 10 years

dang.

and were married 56 years until he passed in '97. 9 girls! WOW!

Our daughter and her just had a big argument and daughter stormed out.
Daughter will be 21 next month, so nobody felt a huge need to go roam the streets of Chicago looking for her. That includes me. Crux of the biscuit was that the Kid is "out in bumfuck egypt" and "needs" wheels.

In Chicago? The "Public Transit Capital of the WORLD"???

She said the same thing when she lived with me. Of course, I *DO* live in Bumfuck Egypt, but that's beside the point.

Girls are difficult to raise.
Boys are difficult, too.

to set the rule in her own space. Probably about time to take the wind out of her sails and let her know that its time for her to be an adult and assume some real responsibility.

I had that discussion with my son when he got rather mouthy and decided that the household rules were for everyone living there but him. He took my suggestion and moved into an efficiency apartment and learned to appreciate what he had taken for granted in the family nest.

Sounds like a spurious statistical correlation to me. Correlation does NOT imply cause and effect. Cherry-picking data to suit the question being answered. Who knows.

That sounds interesting.

Maybe dads are more likely to identify with their sons than with their daughters -- to see the world through their eyes -- and to feel needed by their sons than by their daughters. Most moms will 'stay' with their kids no matter what; but dads that think about leaving can rationalize 'my daughter just needs my wife not me' easier than they can rationalize 'my son can grow up just fine without a father'.

but I also think a lot of fathers are more protective of their daughters than their sons, for similarly sexist reasons.

Among the Great Apes, it is the females that move to find mates (Males are territorial i.e. fight over location and see if any females come to them).

Among Chimpanzee, the males tend to stay together in groups, these are made up of Brothers, Fathers, Sons and Male Cousins. When females reach maturity there tend to leave the band they grew up in and move to another band.

In my practice of law I do affidavits of Emancipation for teenagers who want to move out from their parent’s home and it is almost always Females who want to move out, rarely does a male want to move.

Thus the conflict may be just instinct kicking in, daughter want to leave and find a mate at about age 16, Mothers (and to a limited degree) Fathers think that is to young (and it is), thus you have a generational conflict that can last for years. Such conflict can wreck any family.