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I love the music and the festivities of the holidays,but the gift giving is leaving me increasingly cold. Frankly, I have gotten a little overwhelmed by "stuff" - there just isn't that much more that I need or want, and what I do need, I can easily get for myself.
I'm an only kid and my parents have both passed on, but over the years I got caught up in a gift exchange with cousins - making myself crazy trying to buy presents for people I only saw a couple of times a year. I now send cards and letters instead and I feel a lot better for it. In my husbands family we buy presents for the younger nieces and nephews and the adults draw names.
The last few years, instead of buying each other gifts, my husband and I have gone out shopping together at Christmas to get ourselves a little treat - something for the house that both of us can enjoy. If we get something personal, we have a chance to make sure it's the right size, color, brand, etc. We've been together for 21 years and work together in our own business 24/7, so it's hard to surprise each other. Plus, I don't have that much of a sense of mine and his, everything is ours together, so how can I give him anything?
I think it helps to look at the holiday season like a big buffet - you can't eat everything on the table, you aren't intended to anyway, and you would just make yourself sick if you did. Enjoy the parts of the season that have meaning for you and just let go of the rest. Every once in a while all the cosmic forces align to make a spectacularly wonderful Christmas, but most of the time, it's a pleasant day off of work, a chance to touch bases with friends and family, eat (too much) good food, worship (or not), and enjoy yourself. No more, no less - and that's just fine.
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