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...are not trivialities, as many would like to think. Our beliefs and convictions are part of who we are, part of our personal identity.
In Jewish tradition, it is said that everyone, at some point in his or her life, turns away from and rejects G-d; it is actually a necessary "stage" in the process of spiritual development. The word "Israel" means "to struggle with G-d" or "to wrestle with G-d", meaning that the relationship between Human Beings and the Divine is by no means smooth and steady---nor should be. Your husband may be experiencing a sort of "spiritual crisis" right now, wrestling with G-d and himself as he seeks to reconcile his belief in a higher Source that is good and just with his awareness of what is happening in the physical world. From what you mentioned, I think it's safe to say he is indeed struggling.
While one's relationship to the Divine is extremely important, G-d should not serve as a mistress; his personal spiritual quest is not to be pursued at the expense of another extremely important and sacred relationship, that being your marriage. It's held as fact that communication is crucial to a healthy marriage, the importance of clear, honest communication when dealing with matters such as finances and sex applies to matters of spiritual faith and practices as well. At this point, when you're ready to start talking about divorce, it's time to get some help.
I would encourage you to talk to your pastor/minister about your situation, and how you are feeling; this is one of the many things clergy are there for. Clergy are also bound by the rules of confidentiality, so you can trust that what you say will remain undisclosed. Your pastor will then be able to help guide you in the direction that's right for you, whatever that may be. If you do not feel comfortable talking to your pastor/minister, contact the church office and ask for a referral to a chaplain or another pastor/minister who could counsel you. Either way, I recommend that you first speak to clergy, as the issue at hand relates to spiritual matters, and take it from there.
Take care---I hope this helps.:)
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